The business grows when friends and family pay.

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Hello, everyone.

Welcome to my blog and another wonderful edition of the Hive Learners' featured post. So many people got to learn the hard way that, on no account, business and love should coexist; it's the wrong way to go about any business. In so many cases, I tend not to blame people who avoid doing business with family and loved ones. In most cases, business with a loved one always ends in loss and does not end as planned.

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When we carry out business with a loved one, we become weak and cannot do things like what is expected of us. Since a loved one is involved, we try not to be as strict as we are supposed to, and we relax since we trust them to deliver and hold up their end of the bargain, but many loved ones use that as an opportunity to strike and take everything for their own advantage, leaving one with nothing.

Years ago, my mom owned a boutique. The cushions in the boutique were bad and needed to be changed. We live in Yobe State, which is about a 4 or 5 hour drive to Kano State. My mom was referred to a man who does offostery there in Yobe State, but since her elder brother, who lives in Kano State, is also into the business (offostery), she decided to give him the deal instead of giving it to an outsider who lives nearby.

She told him that when she needed the cushions delivered, all because she wanted to do business with family, she did not even mind the distance as well as paying for the delivery by train then. The cushion was supposed to be delivered in 3 weeks, but a month passed and there was no news from him. He stopped responding to calls, and when they call him with a different number, he picks up, and the moment he hears her voice or that of my dad, he hangs up. It was like a dream; my dad was already mad at her, but she kept saying her brother can't do what my dad is thinking; then why won't he talk?

It continued that way until one Saturday morning, when she decided to travel to Kano State to go see him face-to-face and, from there, know what the problem was. She came back with a sad face that proved that dad was right all along; he used her own money to settle his bills and couldn't get another to get the materials needed to get her work done. He spent both money for the cushion and money for delivery, waited for months, and he still couldn't deliver, and she had to spend another money to work with an outsider which is what she was avoiding, and the outsider delivered a clean work in weeks.

Will she ever make decisions based on sentiments again?

She learned her lesson the hard way, once bitten twice shy, and now she does her business without any sentiments. Don't let love or family come in the way once business is involved. When it's time for business, stick to it and keep it professional.

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You're very correct.
People that we are familiar with take us for granted when it comes to business.
We should keep business business.

Exactly why I don't blame people who try to avoid it dodge any business that has to do with family.

That’s sad
It’s not cool when family or friend break trust in relation to business. It’s always hard to build that trust again but at first, the trust is always at 100% because you wouldn’t want to doubt them because of the relationship that’s in place

That's the truth bro, at first trust is at 100% which is why it hurts so much when they break it.

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Very correct and you’re welcome !BBH

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Some people have their rules when it comes to business — in business, no mercy for even families. Business is business to them. They are always strict to handling their business when it comes to families because if one isn't careful, till the business crashes all in the name of he is my brother, she is my family, everything would get ruined.

Rules or not, some obstinate family members will do wrong in business. When it's time for accountability, they will run to the head of the family or a respected elder to plead on their behalf. Some people are that silly.

Funny thing is that I have seen this happen, they can be so manipulative. You hear that particular uncle of mine say he's hated by everyone, when they refuse to forgive him or plead on his behalf.

Exactly as it should be, stay strict whether it concerns family or not unless you want to see everything you have worked for crash before your eyes.

Exactly

I don't advise people to do business with family members, business is business o because if you do business with family you will not have a say in it. If it was someone else you will have a say.

The truth boss, if it's family you can not take action and when you do you are labeled the bad one.

This reminds me of a lady who travelled to Dubai on a two year work visa as an housekeeper. While she was there, she was sending money to her mom for keeps. She planned to come back after two years to open a very big shop and she could only trust her mom to keep her money safe.

When her visa expired, she got back home to meet the biggest shock of her life. Her mom spent most of the money on frivolities. She couldn't recoup a hundred thousand naira. How does one deal with that?

For me, family and business should never cross path. I've lost count of how many times I've borrowed a family or a friend some amount of money and never got back a single lobo of the money. Nowadays, I'd rather give whatever I can afford.

The mom did her dirty and when you take action, you are the bad person. I borrowed a cousin money from my school fee, he did not pay back and I almost couldn't pay my school fee.

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You can't really blame her for wanting to elevate a family member by giving him work to do. He is to blame for his betrayal. I just hope your mom was able to forget the experience and move on.

She had to let everything go, but time time it's a memory that comes knocking.

What she was avoiding, she was afraid to work with strangers and now she had to work with strangers to get the perfect work. Most times family can really disappoint

I don't really blame those that try to avoid doing business with family, in many cases I have seen them disappoint.