Parents are children's first teachers and we learn a lot from them before we start understanding a lot of things happening in the world. As kids majority of the things we do, and our habits are things that we learned from our parents, we watch them and exhibit these things as well.
Our parents being the first teachers life gave to us, many of us looked up to them for guidance even when we became adults.
According to my mom, I didn't step on school premises until I was ready for nursery class and despite her busy schedule, she prepared me for Nursery class. My parents didn't have to pay for kindergarten and my mom remained my home teacher throughout primary school. I clearly remember how she taught me after school back then, we did assignments together and she really helped me to improve my grades. With all of these, it's impossible for me not to trust my mom's judgement and whenever she gives me advice, I don't doubt her. She is intelligent and blessed with a retentive memory so I trust whatever she says.
I was a teacher for a few years after secondary school and loved the job but the earning was nothing to write home about. Along the line, someone offered me a job but it wasn't the convenient type. I was too comfortable with the teaching job and didn't see any need to change it or try something else but my mom didn't stop encouraging me to try something else because the teaching job wouldn't give me the money I needed to continue my education.
I hesitated for some time but because mom didn't stop pushing me, I eventually took the stressful job. Although it was stressful, it paid off. Aside from being able to save money, I got a connection that helped me secure free accommodation in higher institution.
Despite how well our parents have guided us through life, there are times when they were wrong with their advice or decisions for us. Before I met my woman, I introduced a lady I met while hustling as my girlfriend to my mom. I liked her and immediately my mom set her eyes on her, and she fell in love with her as well. My mom is someone who admires culture a lot and this girl won my mom's heart with that. Aside from the cultural thing, she was very respectful and jovial.
On the day they met, my mom was happy to meet her. It was a brief one and after she left, my mom said she liked her. It didn't take long before I started noticing a few things about this girl and told my mom but she thought I was just trying to discard the girl.
It got to a point I stopped communicating with the girl but my mom still did. She advised me severally not to let go of this good girl and at a point, I stopped talking to Mom about her. She wasn't happy about how my relationship with the girl ended and thought I just jilted the girl until she saw the lady got married about two months after our official breakup and it became clear to her that I had been right all along.
It was impossible to meet a man within a month and get married the next month which means that she had been in a relationship while we were dating. Mom apologized and I am happy that the truth prevailed. Unfortunately for the girl, the marriage didn't work out and I felt pity for her becoming a single mother immediately after her first child.
Many of us expect perfection from our parents because we fail to realise that they are human too and bound to make mistakes. Whenever they give us advice and it doesn't work out, they aren't trying to mislead us. They make these decisions for us based on their understanding, experience and exposure so it's pointless having any negative feelings towards them.
