When we talk about relationships, different people have their opinions on who they think is fit for different people. Some will say they can marry a man who is not in the same age range for an easy flow of conversation and equal respect for one another.
For me, I don't see age as something to be dragged or taken too seriously when it comes to relationships. Some people are of age but are not mentally mature to love, understand, and handle matters. Some are of age and feel getting married to someone they are older than will allow them to show their authority and earn respect without asking for it.
In a relationship, age is not paramount but rather the bond, the love felt by each other, and the respect and understanding the partners have for each other. A man who seems to live by age might miss someone who could have been an answered prayer if he understood that relationships are not defined by age.
I'm not saying being of age is bad or that marrying with an age difference is bad, but being of age and having the attributes of a wise and mature young person is a big advantage to whoever falls for such a person. Not only will the relationship be sweet but also a place for great learning from each other.
I will use this as an instance. My sister married after her Secondary school. She was very young then, 21 years old, and her husband was in his early thirties. The gap was massive, I know, but the marriage is one she has never regretted. She used to be the type to say anything when provoked, not minding that her words could anger others too.
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I don't know how true this is, but I heard once a man and a woman marry, no matter the man's age, the woman doesn't fear speaking to him. My sister demonstrated this practically in every slightest thing. But what amazed her was that whenever she began her ranting, it looked like she was talking to non-living things around the premises because her husband wouldn't utter a word, no matter how much she pressured him.
This happened repeatedly without any change in her husband's behavior. One day, she openly said, "I will stop making myself look like a mad woman since you won't even say a word whenever I'm talking. If we have neighbors upstairs, maybe they must have given me a name."
From that day till now, she stopped talking to her husband in such a manner. She learned not to speak whenever she was fuming. That mutual respect is there, and whenever she feels he has offended her, she only tells him when she can say it without anyone detecting anger in her tone. If her husband wasn't mature mentally and physically, their living together wouldn't have been fun, leading to separation.
Age differences or no age differences, maturity is ultimately in relationships. Age differences shouldn't be a setback when we talk about relationships. Instead of using age to assess someone, looking a qualities should be the paramount consideration.
