Violence is the work of the devil. It is the work of Satan. Satan is the one that enters into the hearts of men and cause them to do what the devil wants them to do. It is not the doctrine of God that men or women should be violent to their partners. That is not what we learn from God. All the evil things that we are witnessing in the world comes from the devil.
The commandment of God is that a man should love His wife as himself. There is no man who ever hated himself. There is no man who would harm himself. Those who are committing suicide do so because they think that when they take their own lives they will be free from calamities in life. But unfortunately, it is not so.
If we live in love and harmony with each other, we will have peace. Our homes will reflect the love of God. We will experience the feeling of heaven on earth if we can avoid violence and embrace peace.