Hello, everyone.
Welcome to my blog and another wonderful edition of the Hive Learners' featured post. They were times where making friends and trying to fit in wherever we found ourselves was the main goal, and it was an easy thing to do. Wherever we go, we blend in like it is nothing, and before we leave, we must have made tons of friends. It was one of the best moments of our lives, where we had people who called to check on us, people who kept us company; we were never bored, and there was no room for sadness to creep in on us.
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As time goes on, things start to change. Friends start to outgrow each other, as they call it, and the bonds start to fade, and new individuals come into existence. The same person who enjoyed making friends now finds it very difficult to even associate; many people these days just want to keep enjoying their own company and all on their own. Along the way, they realized one cannot do life alone and decided to open up to a few people. Friends are those we can confide in, those who think like us and act like us, which is why we have the famous saying "birds of the same feather flock together."
For someone to be called your friend, it simply means he is not your opposite. Both of you have the same characters, or almost the same characters, or something must have attracted you to each other, and along the way, the friendship blossomed. For a friendship or relationship to work, the parties involved must have something similar, maybe personality or character, which is what keeps the relationship going and makes you both compatible with each other.
The answer to this is definitely no. I am introverted and hardly go out, and even when I manage to, I still want to stay in a corner, observe, and watch how everything and everyone does their thing. I don't want to relate, as I find it very difficult. I hardly make friends as I am not even much of a talker; just a few people managed to break through my defenses, and today I am glad they did.
You might enjoy your own company and solitude, but the truth is, at some point in our lives, we need people—someone to talk to, someone to share our problems with, someone who understands us, and someone to help us get through difficult situations. Like I said earlier, we cannot do life alone; we need friends and families to get through certain situations, which is why I am glad I have a few of friends.
The funny thing is they are just like me too; they hardly go out and are indoors always, so we spend more time behind doors, and that way we get to do a lot to catch up.
Sometimes I wish I could open up to more people, but I just can't; it feels more like I am built that way. I can't say why I find it difficult to associate. As we all know, association gives room for more people to come into your life, but since I find it very difficult to associate, it has helped me maintain a very small circle of friends.
A friend of mine said that keeping so many friends gives room for frenemies too. I don't live by it, but I have seen many who suffered at the hands of frenemies, and I think the saying is not bad after all.
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