In this generation, almost everyone wants to be seen in the media, trend, and become a popular figure. All these make it difficult to identify those who offer things genuinely and those who do it to show off in order to grow their audience.
I had a friend who was celebrating his birthday and chose to visit an orphanage. Yeah, it was a good idea, and we supported it. He told us we would follow him to hand over the gifts to the kids and put smiles on their faces. We all went with this mindset. Getting there, his celebrity attitude started; he began doing videos and taking photos of the kids and doing all sorts of crazy drama.
I was surprised and ashamed at the same time. What point was he trying to make? That he bought a carton of noodles and other gifts for the less privileged or what exactly? The whole drama wasn't worth it. I couldn't walk away, so I excluded myself and allowed him to do his thing all to been seen and praised in the media. Indirectly, he was Ewan posting all those to earn from the social media as his accounts were all monetization.
The truth is that the kids received the presents, but what I knew the guy came for a show-off, for his personal gain, and not with pure intentions to make the kids feel loved. Trying to visit the orphanage with his own ulterior motive is nothing but a selfish act to me. Giving should be something done without expecting anything in return.
When we start giving because we want to achieve something else, the good intentions are no more.
In my village, there is a woman who does things just for people to praise and know her. She has things to give, but she would rather not give them out if a large crowd aren't around to see her and praise her.
There is nothing like helping others from one's heart. When we carry out charitable works genuinely, there is a natural connection between the receiver and the giver. When we carry out charitable works with wrong intentions, it comes with lots of disadvantages. Doing things for others without expecting anything in return comes with great rewards. There is nothing as amazing as making a positive impact on the lives of others through giving.
By being a giver, you are teaching the receiver to be like you one day. I learned the act of giving genuinely through someone. This guy was always ready to give without ever letting his left hand know what he had offered. He gives so freely, and his generosity made a great impact on my life.
Whenever we want to offer any form of gift to people, while the act of giving is important, the intentions are equally important. It is expected that we do good for those who need it, not for what we stand to gain, but for the positive impact our genuine offer has on the lives of these people. If I find out someone is helping me for something they could gain, seriously I will receive the offer, but I won't feel the joy to be appreciative the way I would have been if it was a favor done without any form of ulterior motives.
