Every individual ability to control his/her emotion is dependent on personal discipline. One of the most potent of human emotions is anger, a state of mind that emerge from time to time. Humans ability to exhibit anger is most attributed to character because while some people seems to find a way to keep it under control, some let it control them. The ironic part of anger is that, even those who have managed to keep theirs under control still exhibit this emotion when they experience situation that brings the worst out of them.
Am I the type that gets angry easily? not really. The reason for this is quite simple, I have high level of tolerance, but does that mean I don't get angry? I do. For a person like me, I have something called a trigger point. It has nothing to do with a weak spot or something people can tease me about and I will get angry, not necessarily. I have some kind of storage within me that keeps record of people's actions. I'm someone who is aware of how destructive I can be when I'm upset, so I try as much as possible to keep this part of me under control and believe me I have gotten really good at it.
While others might react to specific things, i don't. My mind just keep record of whatever action might be enough to get me upset, sometimes it might be out of respect for an individual that I choose not to react or there are times when I get calculative. For instance, just because your boss or client tease you with something unpleasant does not mean you have to react. You see, getting upset and reacting are two different things, which is something I have managed to understand and differentiate over the years.
So instead of people getting a reaction from me, I just hold it in and blow it off. The most ironic part is what I refer to as my trigger point. When storage I have in me, that keeps record of people's misbehavior eventually gets full, this is were the dramatic part of sets in, at this point when my mind believes I have had enough, it doesn't really matter if what the person did is grand or not, at this point I will definitely respond. The thing about this is that, I always find ways to control when the person in question will get a reaction from me.
There are times people wonder, what this person did is not enough for you to react like this, without being aware of what I have been tolerating. The only difference is that, it is extremely rare for me to get physical when I'm upset, or else the situation demands it. It is rare for me to try to raise my hands or try to hurt someone when I'm upset. I prefer to speak my mind, though the things I might say might not be pleasant but then if the person decides to get physical after hearing what I have said, you can be rest assured that I won't run from it.
But to be the one to get physical with someone first, is something that rarely happens. I'm the kind person that my actions needs to be justified because if it is not, I will end up hating myself for it but if I have managed to convince myself that acting was necessary, then it will make whatever comes next a necessity. How long does it take for me to relax? the moment I decide to give a person what they deserve which is mostly spoken words, believe me, I'm ready to let that person go because I have had enough.
The moment I keep tolerating someone and refusing to react to whatever provocation might come my way, it is because within me I still believe that things might get better, let me just endure it a little longer. My trigger point is when I'm totally convinced that there is no stop to the mistreatment I'm experiencing and there is a need for me say something about, then I will but the end result of this, is never to have anything to do with the person again. Though there are times I also cut a person off silently when I'm upset without having to say anything, just total silence, it just depends on what the situation demands.
This write-up was inspired by weekly featured content titled Angry and mad in hive learners community.
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