So there was this person I had met a long time ago, he was a friend of a friend,we met at an event, it was nothing too serious, like you know just one of those gatherings where you are introduced to people that you might never see again, at least that is what I thought then, when I first saw him, my first impression was very simple and straight to the point, this person looked gentle, he was calm, quiet and not too loud, not doing too much, the kind of person that just sits somewhere and minds his business, i already created a whole personality for him in my head without even talking to him properly.
So then in my mind, he was this gentle, very soft spoken, maybe even shy kind of person,he was the type that would carefully choose words and always still sound polite, that was the version of him that I had already accepted in my head.
And funny enough, we know that first impressions can really be very deceptive because of they are mostly based on appearance and small gestures and not reality.
So then when we eventually started talking like for real, I realized that this person was not exactly gentle the way I imagined him to be, and not gentle in a bad way o, just not gentle in the sense that I had painted in my head, he was very real, very expressive and also very honest, and he not afraid to say things the way that they are, he talks freely and has opinions , I mean strong ones.
See he is the kind of person that will tell you the truth straight, without coating it at all, and to be honest, at first, it surprised me.
So me, I had to adjust my expectations like quickly because the calm and gentle image that I created really did not match who he really was, but then, as time went on, I reay began to appreciate that side of him more, I also realized that gentleness doesn’t always mean being quiet or soft spoken, sometimes it means being genuine, being present, and also being real with people even when it is not convenient for you.
Lol... see now, this person is someone I cannot do without talking to, seriously It is funny how life works because if you had told me that day at that event that this person would become someone important to me, I probably would have laughed at the idea, but here we are.... Even when he is not gentle as I have thought, even when he is blunt, even when he speaks his mind without having to filter, me I still enjoy our conversations.
So from this experience, I learned that people are deeper than first impressions, we meet people at one moment in their lives, in one setting, and we assume we know them, but we humans are layereed, sometimes the person you think that' is calm is actually very outspoken, sometimes the one you think is loud is actually very kind underneath.
Misjudging him then, taught me that I shouldn't box people too quickly, and it reminded me to give people room to be themselves before deciding who they are, and honestly, I am glad my first judgment was wrong, because I would have missed out on a really good connection if I had held on to that my shallow first impression.
So yes, even when he is not gentle as I have thought I am glad that I got to know him beyond that first glance.
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