This is something of my observation. As a daughter in my father's home there were times when he would get annoyed with me for doing something and he would say, this is my home, you can do whatever you like in your home when you get married. Later when I got married, I would hear this sometimes from my mother-in-law, again same thing, it is my home and things have to be done here in certain way. I never liked when they said such things, because I never felt like I was living in my home, it always made me feel like an outsider. Both my father and mother-in-law are not there now. So technically it is my home.
Sometime back me and my son had an argument and I ended up saying the same thing, this is my home and things have to be done in certain way. In that very moment I realised, I was doing a wrong thing, I did the same thing which made me feel alienated in my home. I apologised to my son and vowed to myself that I would never say this again.
Why do parents say these kind of things, in the first place, when a child is born to them, he or she is part of their life and everything and the house equally belongs to the child also. When children grow up and want to do things their way, if the parents does not consent with it then they feel like someone is invading their territory and must be probably feeling insecure, may ne that's the reason for them saying such things.
This is a generational issue. When a girl marries and if she has to stay with her in-laws probably she hears this, when her in-laws pass away and she becomes the elder one in the family, she ends up doing the same thing and it keeps going on. When people stay together in one house, it's everyone house and not of one or two people.
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