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Greetings, the initiative of our great friend @damarysvibra, has led me to great memories and reflections.
I say great memories because all of us as human beings at some point in time have been creating bridges and even walls but in many occasions we build them unconsciously, but they have also been made from the conscience.
in youth we almost always try to be mediators especially with friends and their relationships, since we become accomplices of those relationships to the point that we create bridges and walls, depending on what we like, if it is something where my friend will be affected according to my point of view and not hers, then I start from my affection for her to reject her and end up creating a wall that often ended up being a wall between me and that person and a great bridge between them.
From my experience and looking in depth at this analysis I always tried to be a mediator but without really knowing the rules to be a mediator, yes the rules, because instinctively we try as they say in good Cuban to help fix things and without realizing it we start giving opinions and criteria, and imposing ideas and until we see that instead of mediating and creating a bridge we build a wall.
And parents with their great experiences end up telling you that you tried to fix something and you came out wrong, I from my good faith did not understand it, until maturity came and I learned that in order to be a mediator the first thing I had to do was to start clarifying internal conflicts, that there is no problem in looking for help
but above all, the first thing to do to not only be a mediator but to succeed in being a mediator was to create a healthy environment where mediation can flourish on its own, to learn to listen to both parties, but to listen without prejudice, looking for the logic of each party, their reasons, but without issuing my criteria respecting this act.
The person who looks for you to mediate a conflict does it because he has discovered in you a group of conditions and qualities to be his confidant.
At my age I have been learning that as the saying goes, it is better to see the bulls from the barrier, we live in such a fast and convulsive way that mediating becomes difficult because there are more and more conflicts, where personal interests prevail more and more without leaving space for dialogue in many occasions, and to mediate you must have good listening skills.
paz
I really avoid this role,I believe in the human being and above all in life in harmony and myself and I recognize that I have involuted saying that at this age I have nothing to lose I say what I understand and that's it,without realizing that in that position I have been creating walls and not bridges,so thank you @damarysvibra for bringing me back to how it should be. creating a bridge gives peace from the family, social and work, and the greatest happiness is to live without conflict from the love of others, always doing good, the solution of controversy gives pleasure, because it is a bridge that you will know that love, respect, will pass through it.
