Hello beautiful people. Fatherhood is very delicate and very delightful and a father must realize this while his son is still a child so that the bond can grow before the awkwardness sets in.
Love the son you have.
A father must love the son he has, not the son he wants. There is a big difference in what you have and what you want, a father must ensure he has unconditional love for his son irrespective of what the son is doing or becoming, it is his love that will guide the child to become who he wishes if that is the path the son will eventually take in life.
A father must be the greatest motivation and example for the son. There is no one else a son looks up to than the father, he wants to see if his father can do it and then he will try to do it as well, a father must take up that challenge to try and do what will make the son proud to have him as a father and as a motivator.
Fail and get back up.
A father must learn how to get back up from failures from watching the father do the same. The lessons a son will learn from the father in those times are not taught in schools, he will listen to the guidance of his father and end up becoming a better man himself. Evidently showing the son that he can fall and get back up no matter what.
Manage Emotions
It is okay for a father to feel the wide range of emotions, from fear to anger, from sadness to happiness, from pain to depression. However, it is not okey to stay angry, it is not okay to stay sad, it is not okay to stay depressed, a father must be able to handle those emotions and manage himself properly, he has to feel them and experience them, a father needs to teach through his actions how to understand, manage and regulate these emotions.
Treat women with respect
A father is the first man a son will see with a woman and the way the father treats the wife who is the mother of the son will go a long way in creating a long-lasting memory and interface for that child, there should be respect in the home, there should be complaining but excess of it, there may be quarrels but there should be more love, a boy will learn how to treat his wife from the way his father treats his mother. This is key.
Desire what you want and go for it.
A father must teach the son how to go for what he wants by working for it. That effort will allow the son to know the value of things and also how to demand that same value from anyone. The son will not be a walkover. The world is crazy right now with many people who do not deserve anything but having a serious entitlement mentality.
