What intellectually led me to understand attachments begins precisely with our intellect so present and everything has to be scientifically proven, concept, characteristics and a few elements that leave us with the feeling that we are attached beings.
Yes, I have lived them, attachments to my basic family group, as I call it, my parents and siblings. When I was very young and financially independent, living in another city, I cried when I could not travel on specific dates because I was not going to be with them or share with them. Once a light came to my mind and told me: they are there, you are here, don't stop living your experiences, they will always be your family, you will always find the space to be with them.
At that time, it was a big change in my life. Here from the point of view of family relationships and how far that feeling of belonging to a family goes. Also, the system of beliefs and family loyalties that without realizing it affects us a lot, sometimes we do not even believe in it, only that we must follow the lines of inheritance of those who are before us. This is a very broad topic and to understand it as well.
If I was to keep many things, then understanding about the lack and everything that surrounds us, I begin to realize so many material things that I kept, for the same reason, treasuring material things that others do not even remember and me filling my house, with it.
When I started this process, I took out study materials, notebooks, guides that were no longer necessary, I understood that knowledge evolves every day, I gave thanks for everything that favored me at a time but now, come different ways of seeing things to learn them. So I did with clothes, shoes, handbags. It was a total liberation at that time.
Attachment to children is a big thing. I always thought that they would grow up and decide their own paths, but I never imagined that it would be outside of Venezuela. The good thing is that as I thought in those years that they were children, I dedicated myself to share a lot with them...already teenagers, how many changes from them towards me...I understood that it was not that they did not love me and did not value my support with them, my care towards them, my time with them...but that I was part of their paths as well as I went out to walk mine. That freed me up a bit too when they were both no longer with us.
Now, I feel that they are the ones who must become aware of their choices so that they do not suffer from those attachments to us. Presence is important but the paths chosen are also important because they are their paths.
As siblings, we agreed to sell my parents' house...and indeed there are many memories there as children, but the house is not materially attached to us. We understood that the material does not belong to us.
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