The concept of love and relationship has existed as long as man. Hence, we have a large sample size that would be sufficient for any research to be carried out on this topic.
Betrayal has existed as long as love. That is to say betrayal has been around as long as man too.
"Change is constant" this is a popular and true saying.
In essence, man (woman included) is inherently dynamic, we don't even know ourselves completely, not to talk of someone else.
Certain situations make us find out things about ourselves and we are often surprised by our own actions or inactions.
Marriage, the coming together of two people to become one is filled with multiple dynamics just like the two people who make it up.
Nothing is guaranteed, anyone can change later on.
Soo....
Love with your heart but carry your brain along.
There are no rules to these things.
Some people marry, penniless while some marry as billionaires.
Some marry people of same social class while others marry someone down the social ladder.
Nothing proves love, just the belief.
The person who has sworn to be in love with you, might as well be a pretentious liar, lurking and waiting to destroy you or just your finances. In some cases both.
How can you be so sure?
It may be a slight misunderstanding which normal couples should have discussed and settled but then, one of them may consider the benefits of a divorce personally and decide that the differences are irreconcilable just to get the funds.
Love may be enough or not. One has to be as honest to himself or herself as possible.
People who meet their spouses while working up the social ladder may not think of having prenuptial agreements. The couple would have known each other better and possibly contributed equally to their successes.
While those couples with a wide social gap before meeting may see the need, especially the spouse higher up. This is because such marriages are common sites for gold diggers who can not wait to reap where they did not show.
These ones will divorce with as little an excuse as "I fell out of love".
More often than not, the man bears the brunt of this problem, sharing 50% of your success with an opportunist who contributed nothing but came to steal from you.
The law allows such stealing to occur, empowering more of such stories to come up.
Prenuptial agreements help save and prevent such scenarios and we see marriages with a prenup lasting longer. Then you see that people could be more tolerant, understanding and patient.
Why? Because if they walk out of the marriage, they are walking away with what was agreed initially, not a fee imposed by the court. And this agreement was made with respect to facts and not feelings like the divorce court.
Doesn't prenup negate love?
I think not, it may come off as being suspicious initially but any would-be spouse who feels so terrible about it may have ulterior motives and should bounce already.
Even in love, people are also looking out for themselves.
So, have a prenup if you wish but ensure your terms are reasonable.
If you don't like it, good and fine. Ensure you are your loves lover.
Marriage is afterall meant for two adults.
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