It will never be perfect

nainaztengra in #relationship • 4 days ago

One thing I observe these days is that people are having lesser and lesser tolerance towards each other, and it's become very easy to let go off relationships. There are so many different types of names to a relationship based on each one's convenience, which is beyond my capability to understand. I am a little old school when it comes to relationships. And for me there are only 2 ways to a relationship, either a full yes or a full no. But these relationship of convenience is beyond my understanding.

Also when things do not go along well in a relationship, I believe in working on them and not giving up on them. Relationships is about 2 people coming together and they will have 2 brains, 2 mindsets, 2 thought processes and separate emotions to process, in such a case there is going to be some level of non-conformances towards each other. Everyone who is married for a long time will agree that they have been through some ups and downs and difference of opinions in their journey but that does not mean that the relationship cannot work. I will never a perfect 100% relationship the way we want, and if that happens then for sure one partner is getting everything desired and the other one is sacrificing.

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When young generation these days look out for a partner they want someone who is perfect for them, but in reality it will never happen that way, there is nothing called as perfect. Both sides will have their flaws and strengths and as a couple understanding towards each other is required to sail through in the journey.

It's so easy for some people to move on from one partner to another when they do not get along and then I think to myself that here I am almost 30 years with this same person, with hell lot of differences and yet I never want to give up on him or he on me and why is that. Is it Love or has it just become a habit.

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coinjoe 4 days ago

It is a hell of a lot of work to make the relationship work. Been married for over 30 years myself and it has been a bunch of ups and downs as you say. But we work through it and make it work. I think it has gotten easier the longer we have been togther though.

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nainaztengra 2 days ago

You are right, I have normally observed that the challenge is the first 10 years of marriage and after that you kind of start settling into it

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coinjoe 2 days ago

I think it just depends on the couple.

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ozd 4 days ago

What you said is absolutely right, young people this days are becoming delusional on get a perfect spouse, whereas there's no perfect person anywhere.

Relationship is just two imperfect people coming together and trying to make sure their relationship or marriage works

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nainaztengra 2 days ago

Absolutely, all these delusions mess up our life more then sorting it out

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enginewitty 4 days ago

When you make love a habit, it is no longer a chore.

Witty

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nainaztengra 2 days ago

So true my dear

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almi 4 days ago

You have right, nothing and nobody is perfect. A good relationship requires a lot of work from both sides. Have a beautiful day!

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nainaztengra 2 days ago

Thank you. True, it's a 2 way work.
Wish you too a wonderful day!

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princessbusayo 4 days ago (edited)

In relationships, love is a sacrifice itself. When two partners have come to understand that they can never be perfect but with understanding and commitment, they will sail through. One of the reasons why some relationships do not last long is that they haven't yet understand what real love is. Many of them only want something they'd never see happen but no, they want it all perfect which is impossible.

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nainaztengra 2 days ago

I would say such people should not get marry because they can just make the relationship miserable and their partner will also suffer in many ways.

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nevies 4 days ago

Wow, 30 years with one partner, that is great. Clearly you practise what you preach.

You're also right, this is what a relationship is supposed to be like and people are supposed to avoid relationships if they cannot handle that, rather than going into relationships and breaking up frequently.

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nainaztengra 2 days ago

A relationship is about understanding each other and taking care of each other's need and not being self absorbed

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nevies 2 days ago

Right

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ebonymama 4 days ago

Relationship has gone beyond what you think this generation go into it based on what they have in mind to achieve that is why when they have succeeded and wants to leave they have nothing to regret but sometimes they fail in their plans when they meet with wiser person

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nainaztengra 2 days ago

Too much of society garb is filled in to young people's mind.

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ebonymama 2 days ago

That's exactly but too bad

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lecia89 4 days ago

I'm also old school when it comes to relationship, I believe there are no perfect individuals but two lovers who are willing to work on their flaw and appreciate their strength.

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nainaztengra 2 days ago

That's a beautiful way of sailing through

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kriszrokk 3 days ago

And for me there are only 2 ways to a relationship, either a full yes or a full no. ...

Also when things do not go along well in a relationship, I believe in working on them and not giving up on them.

Count me in on this one. I often hear those fuzzy-wuzzy phrases and explanations such as "but it has to flow", "we're not aligned", "it doesn't have to be hard", "no compromises", etc. Well, good luck finding the 100% piece you seemingly miss in your "outside" puzzle. Few are willing to put in the work both inside and outside.

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nainaztengra 2 days ago

True, many people get into some self fulfilling thoughts, like I am the best and I deserve the best, and in that delusion they keep waiting forever for the best or they just keep messing up with what they have.
This is what even I hear regularly, "we are not aligned" phewww, I have never been able to understand the meaning of it from their point of view. It just means that I can have flaws but my partner should not.

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