The Weight I Didn’t Need

in The MINIMALISTyesterday (edited)

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Minimalism to me is all about freedom, it's the art of being free from clutter, physically, emotionally and mentally and embracing the things that truly matters.
It translates to having a more intentional lifestyle.
It's about removing what feels heavy and unnecessary, and also not only in areas that are physical, like emotions, thoughts, or relationships.

Being a little introverted making friends feels like a heavy duty and hasn't always been easy, I find it easier to be friends with good old people since they don't always judge me and I learn a great deal from them.

So there's this girl I started talking with who shared the same interests with me, I appreciated the connection and all, and it all felt refreshing. But then things shifted recently. She stopped responding, began acting distant and gave off an attitude that I couldn't understand why or explain.

And the whole time I kept wondering what 'I' did wrong, I kept replaying out coming conversations in my head, to see if I said or did something wrong. And this really affected my mood and thoughts for days.

But the in the spirit of minimalism, I knew I had to think differently, Was this emotional weight helping or hindering my peace of mind? Well the answer was crystal clear. I have decided to give her some space, and maybe she can decide to come around sometime, even if she doesn't I still have my peace.

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Minimalism has taught me to let go of things both physical and emotional that are no longer serving me and that doesn't align with the personality I want.

As we all know, there's always room for improvement. I believe I'm not there yet, there are still areas in my life that needs improvement si as to fully embrace this lifestyle. For one I need to work on overthinking and emotional responsibility for people's unexplained behavior. Thus is something I'm still learning to release, I care way too much about people and if they mess up it's like I'm feeling a lot of hurt inside.
I also want to simplify my digital space and spend more intentional time online, most times when I enter the net to see a few videos and the next thing I've already spent hours. So I need less doom-scrolling and more intentional digital time.

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My short term goal is to protect my mental and only leave space for mutual and uplifting conversations. To be more selective of where and who I spend time with and what I'm putting my energy to.

And in the long run, I’m working toward a life that feels balanced physically, emotionally, and spiritually. My dream is to build a home with just what I need, a calm mind, peaceful existence and coexistence not pretense.

Minimalism makes my life calmer in. A best way. It helps me to reduce clutter, both physical mess, excessive digital noise or emotional chaos. Minimalism also helps me mindful of how I spend my time, also I don't feel pressure to always be busy, I take a good rest when I need it and when I can, also I know I no longer need to say yes to everything!

Another important aspect that minimalism has helped me, is choosing not to buy something I don't need, yes sometimes I see something and I'm tempted to buy it, but now I hold back and think if I really need the stuff or not.
There's so much joy in simplicity and minimalism also helps to create a room for deeper focus and more peace and you always get to smile at how productive you've been.

Minimalism also isn't about being cold or distant, but it's choosing to hold on to what truly matters, and in moments like the recent experience where someone pulls away without explanation, I remind myself that it's not everything unclear that's worth my clarity.

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Well I hope you manage to patch things up with this girl -I know how difficult it can be making friends. But you're right. Regardless what happens, it's important to watch the things you burden yourself with and shes needless things.

Yea, go on! I love your perspective on your minimalist lifestyle and getting rid of those emotional weight. It’s important we free our minds from unnecessary stuff but to watch over our peace of mind and learning to say no in some situations.

That's beautiful, both the long and short term goals, dear.

Sometimes people's sudden change of attitude can be very annoying, and I've realized that my peace of mind is paramount. Thus, it has helped me let go of unproductive friendship and honestly, I learned not to miss such people 😉😊

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Hermosa mi linda niña !e encanta como día a día vas creando nuevas cosas. Me encanta ese tiño de shorts

I like how you said she can decide to come back but if she doesn’t, you’ll still be at peace. We often burden ourselves with the relationship we have with others. And sometimes, their presence becomes an issue to us. I’m glad you’re taking the other road.