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For centuries, mostly in Africa, there has been this stereotype that the kitchen is the woman's domain; the man has no place in the kitchen, or it's a taboo for a man to be seen working in the kitchen. However, the world and we as individuals keep evolving, and things keep changing. This stereotype is slowly becoming outdated.
In this day and time, I think it would be unfair to say that men shouldn't work or help with the kitchen.
I don't see anything wrong with a man helping out with the kitchen, and this shouldn't even be a debate anymore. I see it as wickedness when a woman is all alone working in the kitchen and a man, be it her husband or brother, is around doing nothing and not helping her out.
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I once had a colleague who was heavily pregnant then, and when she came to work, she usually looked tired in the morning, and even though she was excited at the close of work that she was going to rest, sometimes you would hear her saying she wasn't going to rest immediately when she got home because she still had a lot to do. One day when we got talking, she casually told me her husband is not domesticated, that he is a typical African man; apparently he is the only male child amongst his sisters, so they did everything for him.
And he grew up with that mindset that a man is a king, and some certain house chores were just meant for women. She told me her husband doesn't take his plate to the kitchen when he's done eating; he leaves it on the table when she gets back home, and she will take it to the kitchen and start cooking that night. As of that time, he had more time than her because she said he was mostly at home while she was working 7am - 6pm.
Because she didn't see anything wrong with him, I didn't say anything to her; I was just looking at her and saying God forbid in my mind.
While some people might not see anything wrong with him, I see a wicked man. It won't take anything from the man to cook before his wife comes back from work.
I know someone that a week after his wife gave birth through CS, he told her to start cooking because he misses her food. To me, this is witchcraft.
Personally, one of the criteria of a sexy and good man is a man who's willing to lift some burdens from his woman, and if one of those burdens is part of kitchen work (which it always will be), then he should joyfully do it.
Cooking together with your family can be a fun and rewarding experience and also increase the bond between family members.
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