Life is indeed a school. The more you live, the more you learn.
Growing up, I was not very outgoing. I was very reserved and I loved to be in my space. I don't usually keep friends because they won't find me interesting to hang out with. I am always reading a novel or just somewhere enjoying the beauty of nature.
The only friend I had growing up was Ebiere. The reason being that we were born towards the same period and we were very close neighbors and family friends. I liked her a lot. We were always together as kids and we had a lot in common. She would always defend me when I'm being bullied. Our parents were friends so, we shared almost the same moral standard. We were respectful, responsible, and religious.
I had one friend in senior secondary school as well, her name was Jane. We became close because we always took the same route everyday and we were classmates. Jane made it easy for everyone to like her because of her outgoing and funny nature. She made everyone in our class laugh. We had a lot in common too. She was very respectful, responsible, and we shared same religious beliefs.
In the university too, I had two friends, we did everything together and their friendship changed my life for good. Mariam and Bukky had everything I liked in people. We were in the same department, lived together, eat together, study together. They were really great friends to me. While studying, we made sure we all get an aspect before moving forward. We were decent and people respected and envied our friendship.
I can say for a fact that I've been really blessed with genuine friends till date. I have never had a friend that gives me naughty advice or made me compromise my values and beliefs. I have never had a friend that I can't introduce to my parents. I have never had a friend that was not respectful or morally upright. I had a picture of the type of friends I want in mind all the time. This was based on my age and maturity at that time.
If I had to give my younger self some advice about navigating friendships, I would tell her to;
Be a good and loyal person you must be a good friend as much as you want good friends. If you're not a good person, people will not stay with you. If you are not good, you won't attract good people.
keep friends that have what you don't have what I'm trying to say here is that have people that have what you don't have, people that are good in areas you are struggling with. A Friend that can help you in areas where you can't help yourself.
Keep friends that are more intelligent than you. It is better to keep friends that know more than you, in areas that are important to you, So that they can help you to get to the level you are trying to get to.
These are the things I'd tell my younger self about friendship. These are just my ideas about people that should be around me.
Yours truly @aunty-tosin💕💕
