Most interesting encounters you have :) Jokes apart though, as a member of the male class I agree with you that we do not really understand impact of things. Even a person like me who says this so easily out here in print does not really get it in real life. It does not help that society has made ladies also accept this inequity of responsibilities and not allow us to actively involve ourselves, especially the older generation.

In my case I was theoretically certain that I was not really as equitable as I thought I was in my relationship, but I used to chalk it up to my partner not really getting the collaboration part right. I mean I have all these good ideas and really mean for all women to grow and expand their wings, including my spouse; so how can i be inequitable. Yes the dishes are not washed and the laundry is to be done, but I will do it... for sure... just not now when I am in middle of a game. Now, why did she have to go and do it and not wait a couple of hours. I would have surely got it done! Oh we need to cook, well why don't I just buy from outside. Yes yes, it is costly sometimes but it is ok, since i like your cooking or outside food, my cooking sucks.

As you can see I am pretty much the dumb male you highlight, thought the following substack by a friend helped rudely expose me to a lot of my gaps. Only saving grace is that I might be 50% better than an average Indian male, though that is not really that great if you consider the downside. Check out the substack at: Womaning substackI am sure it might make sense in other parts of the world too.

I do empathize with the gentleman at the end, not from an angle of whether he deserved it or not. I don't think it would have changed his prejudices, in fact it might have weaponized them. However caregiving is a very difficult proposition and society sometimes does not fully appreciate how much it can affect the caregivers health, both physical and mental. Especially in our countries where earlier generations managed it thanks to both large joint families and high mortality. We have yet to work out a good support mechanism as a society for caregivers.

As usual your article has made me think a lot and my comment has turned into a post :) Hope it was not too boring though. Cheers from a fellow #dreemerforlife