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raymondspeaks in The Flame • 8 months ago

I don't normally write about this because it's a part of me that remains ashamed.

My innocence was stolen from me when I was a young boy -- in my early years.

Other men don't realise the psychological harm this brings to us -- inability to form relationships, exposed to sexuality way too early, viewing all forms of intimacy as sexual. It really does a number on us.

Yet whenever I talk about it, it's always met with - wow, wish I was you, or something to that matter (unless it's close friends who understand).

And yes, like you, I couldn't trust women as far as I could throw them at one point. I always thought they were there to take.

Take take take.

But then I met a wonderful lady, who I married, and now I love women -- I see that my experiences were effecting my perception, and my darkness was overshadowing 99.99% of women.

Seems you and I have walked similar paths from the opposite side of the spectrum lol

8 months ago in The Flame by raymondspeaks

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borderline.babe 8 months ago

Thank you for sharing 🙏❤️ I used to feel ashamed, especially with men, there can be such a stigma surrounding the topic. As you said, as if men are meant to react to it differently, or as if women aren't perpetrators.

I'm so happy to hear that it has been met positively 🙏🙌 I had to experience quite a few bad eggs before finally meeting my husband, but the same as you. He was the first good man I had ever met at the time. He helped me realize that "not all men," and it be true! 😂 And like you, it really made me realize how much of my perception had been distorted due to the experiences...

I'm glad we were both able to share a little bit; it seems like we have tons in common! 😂 The female version LOL

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raymondspeaks 8 months ago

I think that's the key to it all.

When we have bad experiences -- and we step into it (through not knowing) -- we meet similar people. I was always meeting women that met my energy.

Then I met this pleasant woman, who for the first time I felt liked me as a person, and I actually felt safe around.

It really opened my eyes up to how many different people are out there, and how the energy we give out usually shapes the people we meet and the experiences we have!

Like you have lovely energy -- I love your writing; there's thoughtfulness, reciprocity, care, and love in your work. I would have never guessed this.

However part of me is aware that those of us who find true peace usually have to walk the darkest of paths first.

One thing I've realised is meaning is formed through pain.

Those of us that have had hard lives and heal from it usually have tons of meaning later.

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