When improvement is mentioned, people usually think of their business career and additional knowledge they can acquire to be even better at their job, better paid, and more respected.
But when you look at an entire human life (which passes in the blink of an eye), somewhere only the question remains: 'What kind of person was he?'
And what kind of person someone was depends partly on the question Galenkp asked:
What things have you done to continually improve yourself as a person and why?
What kind of person someone is depends on the actions they took in their life and what qualities and deeds fill the sheet of paper that has been written throughout their life.
Because each of us comes into this world clean, without a stain, without a single letter on a white sheet of paper. Each of us is ready to form as a person, and depending on what is written on that paper, our life will be like.
In my opinion, family/home upbringing is somehow the most important, which a young person acquires in the first years of their life, when they are taught by parents/guardians, brothers and sisters, grandmothers and grandfathers, and in elementary school how to behave towards others, how to share, to have respect, kind words, words of gratitude...
If someone lacks that basic upbringing, it is difficult for them to become a well-mannered person later in life, someone who has empathy and love within them.
But they say that can be learned too, so perhaps there is hope.
As a child, I grew up in the company of my parents and older sister (who passed away when I was young), who took care of me and gave me attention and love, and then my younger brother, to whom I gave love and who occupied my attention.
I was taught early in my youth that it is good to give, so I gave myself in all kinds of situations.
Whenever someone needed help, I immediately responded. Helping someone (a friend, neighbor, family) with moving, renovating a house or apartment, garden work, building a new house, painting, making furniture, tutoring, lending money... I was always there.
And then I experienced something I didn't know until then, that is, I knew, but I didn't expect it to happen.
I experienced some of those friends, neighbors, and family turning their backs on me when I asked them for help... Although I thought I would get help from them because I was there for them when they needed it, I didn't get help.
So I started to learn. To learn how to separate the important from the unimportant in my life.
I can give myself unreservedly to what is important to me, and I can skip what is not important so I don't turn around. I still mess up sometimes in that classification, but mostly I don't make mistakes often.
It's not just a question of what things you can do to improve yourself as a person and why, but for whom? I don't have my own child, so I probably lost one of the most important goals in life, how to work on myself to be a good parent. But I give myself to the maximum in things that will bring me closer to my family members, my loved ones.
Attentive, dedicated, caring, brave, smiling, full of understanding. Every day I run this through my thoughts like a mantra because that's how I want to be to those who mean the most to me in life.
To those who don't mean much to me, because I don't mean much to them either, I give as much as I receive.
That's how it is at work, where due to the nature of the job, I am constantly in a phase of improvement, but only to the extent that suits me and for what I know my progress will be rewarded.
For acquaintances who occasionally contact me, I am there occasionally. I learned that because they weren't available when I called them for something.
I think the formation, through improvement, of me as an improved person, began at the moment when I concluded that it was necessary to work on myself, but for my own satisfaction.
Then I decided to stop working after work (from home), to spend more time in nature, to be in the company of my partner and family members as often as possible, and to do something I love.
Because only when a person is satisfied with what they do will they be satisfied with themselves.
I learned to take the burden of stress off my shoulders when I come home from work – I never talk about work.
And as the last in a series of things I have done and continue to do, which I consider a real improvement of myself as a person, which I enjoy very much and affects me, that I feel much freer and have more self-confidence.: I started practicing the language.
I need that language here on Hive, but also in everyday life, so I combine the pleasant with the useful!
For now, my paper is still being written. I add something to it, but mostly I just emphasize the letters that were written earlier.
If someone close to me in life were to read it, they would say: an honest, honorable, hardworking, caring person, ready to give more than expected, with a sense of humor...
I would be satisfied with that reading if tomorrow were my end.
But I hope it won't be and that I will chat with you here for many more years in the language I am slowly mastering.
