Niceness Is Not an Apology

in Freewriters5 months ago

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I can’t overlook the way some people bruise you and then return with some kind of manipulative softness, pretending as if kindness alone can erase the shape of the wound.

They do something wrong and they’re very much conscious of it and are also conscious you’re still hurting over it but instead of naming the problem, instead of standing still long enough to apologize, they arrive smiling.

Next thing you know, lighter voices, small favors, borrowed warmth are being shoved in your face, when you don’t buy it, they gawk at you, hoping their politeness will rewrite the moment.

But niceness without accountability is obviously just manipulation in a gentler coat. I can’t overlook the silence where an apology should live and will never. The careful avoidance of the truth, the refusal to sit with discomfort or the absurd belief that time and charm can do the work that honesty refuses to do.

If we don’t talk about what hurts, it doesn’t disappear. In my case, it waits and just settles in the space between us, present and asking to be acknowledged.

So no, I won’t be softened into forgetting. Nor will I be coaxed into peace that is built on denial. Because care is not being nice afterward, it is owning the harm and saying openly I was wrong and meaning it.

And that, if not done correctly, is something I can’t overlook.

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My response to the freewriters dailyprompt

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For some reason, a lot of people find it hard to say that one word: sorry. There’s nothing wrong with saying it. In fact, saying it doesn’t make you look weak, it’s a strength. Admitting a mistake and trying to make it right takes courage, and you gain respect.

Exactly! I honestly don’t know why anyone would think apologizing is a sign of weakness. They let pride take over their sense of reasoning and such behavior is appalling.

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Muchas veces no basta con un perdón necesitamos algo más, y no hablo de lo material. Las personas que nos hacen daño, dejan esa herida abierta y muchas veces es fácil de cerrar pero también es difícil de cerrar, pero es peligroso cuando cada que intentamos cerrralos nos hacemos más heridas. Una historia con mucho que contar. Fue un gran gusto leerte. Un fuerte abrazo y muchas bendiciones.

Often, forgiveness isn't enough; we need something more, and I'm not talking about material things. People who hurt us leave that wound open, and sometimes it's easy to close, but sometimes it's difficult. It's dangerous when every time we try to close it, we inflict more wounds. A story with so much to tell. It was a great pleasure to read your post. Warmest regards and many blessings.