Parenting isn't an easy task to perform; parents weren't given any manuals on how to raise a child; I think they were blessed from birth with the instinct to be parents. Often, when I look at my mother, I'd be like, "Wow," and why am I being surprised? I'm just surprised because despite not reading any manual that tells you, "Don't raise a child like this," she still ends up being an amazing parent. Kudos to every parent out there.
It is said that children are our reward from the almighty "yeah" and that makes them special and peculiar to parents. As children, parents are always present in their lives even in situations where they aren't needed; when you look at a spot, you'd see the parent hiding in the corner monitoring the child.
Parents find it fulfilling being very active in their children's lives "yeah" and the children also like it as well but then it will come to a point in life where the child would feel like being alone and wouldn't want the interference of the parents "when that happens" most parents find it hard.
"What did I just say?" The parents will always be there in the lives of their children; though they aren't with them physically, but they are with them. Everyone grows, and children aren't exempt from that; one day, every child will grow up and will be faced with a decision that will change their lives, and often, the parents won't have a say in it. All the parents can do is to give some words of advice and do the needful.
I believe every parent wants to be active in the lives of their children, but then a time will come when these children will need some time to themselves to reflect on their personal well-being and also decide to be what they want. In such cases, parents are left out of the equation, and all they have to do at that time is to advise the child not to make the wrong decision. When that stage comes parents will be left out.
Often, some parents try to pressure themselves and force their way into their child's life; no, I totally understand this part, but then parents should understand that their children need space at a certain stage in life, and when that stage comes, parents should try and create that space needed.
One thing I've come to understand is that no matter the space a child wants and how parents are also willing to give them that space, parents are still playing a major role in the life of the child. Now, this part also depends on the upbringing; as a parent, it is right to create a relationship with your child that no matter what, that child will confide in you and tell you everything "if not all the things" going on in their lives.
A child should trust you enough to tell you whatever he or she is going through, even when there was a space that was created. As a parent I'm gonna be a listener when it comes to my children; I'm not gonna be just a parent but also a friend they can trust and tell anything. That way I can still be partially active "if not fully" in their lives.
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