People go about saying these words "forgive and forget" like it's that easy. I know words are always easy to use, like mentioning them in a statement "which doesn't hurt," but then attaching those words to an hurt would show you how hard those words sound to the ear.
I've heard different stories of how people would betray those very close to them, and after realizing themselves, they would come back and mention those words "forgive and forget" as if it were very easy to perform. I know how some people would try to pretend like nothing happened, but then deep down inside of them, they will never forget the hurt that others have caused them.
Just like they say, action speaks louder than words, and we all know that hurt is an action that is being performed, being hurt or offended isn't just mere words that were mentioned, so it goes beyond just the words, but then an action taking place is another thing on its own.
Before I go further I would love to define the terms "forgive and forget" in my understanding those words means to pardon someone for a wrong that the person has done to us and they went further into saying that we shouldn't dwell in the hurt or offense thereby telling us to let go of the hurt and pretend like nothing happened "interesting".
I know the phrase "forgiving and forgetting" is very important to mankind because it builds broken things back into whole but then let's not forget how hard it can be to put those words into practice, I know words are very easy to pronounce but then putting those words into practice is where the big deal lies.
I know how most people would go further into saying that forgiveness is easy, but the forgetting part is the hardest because getting our minds to forget an hurt is not an easy task to take. I can remember vividly when someone did something to me, and the person came apologizing and was like "I'm sorry please forgive and forget", and I, on the other hand, would be like "I've forgiven you" without mentioning the forget part.
Yeah, I said that word above, but then whenever I see that person who hurt me, those memories keep dancing in my head like it happened yesterday, and I would find myself developing anger from nowhere. I've come to the realization that forgetting can be challenging, especially when the offense was deeply hurtful.
I feel like it isn't always necessary to forgive and forget because you can't tell someone to forget a hurt. Forgiveness comes easily compared to forgetting. What is important is to acknowledge the hurt and process the experience. If it's something that can be forgotten, then it's fine, and if it's something that will take a little time, then let it take all the time it deserves.
We can actually choose both, but then, like I mentioned earlier, the forgetting part takes a little longer. To actually forget a thing, I think a proper conversation should be had, and the issue should be settled. This is the time that one is likely to forget what actually transpired.
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