Everyday comes with a new motivation and opportunity to reach the goals we set.
Last year, I was almost derailed from achieving his goal because of "the tough times I faced."
I as much as I don't want to generalize it, every single human on earth has that one time they faced a very tough situation in their life. Sometimes, they feel like ending it while some try to leap their way through to the light at the end of the tunnel. I wish there was a light in my tunnel during that time but well, life always happens.
I have faced many challenges in life, ranging from financial, social, physical and even love.
Each and every one of the challenges I faced in life is worthy of note but for this post, I will love to share about the challenges I faced in terms of "love."
I really hate this word
It all started when I came to school. This beautiful lady met me to carry her along in her studies and I gladly accept, having nothing in mind. Gradually, me and her turned into love birds and could not concentrate when teaching her. Well, I did not have intentions of falling in love, so I held back and kept my feelings to my self.
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After a while, I had to travel for experience which was to last for 2 months and I could see the pain in her eyes because was travelling. I payed no mind to it because I did not want to love, but instead I want to live and be happy with myself and by myself. I wanted no company.
When I travelled, she kept on calling, some times, we talk for about 3hours. What amazes me is that I don't know what we're talking about but we talk. Alot.
Then I realized he love is beginning to kick in, so I decided to observe and evaluate. After everything, I asked her o be my girlfriend which sh accepted.
The love officially started and the whole school knew about it. Being a very popular person and the guy every girl wants, most girls were annoyed and they stopped talking to me for sometime
I was kind of annoyed but well, it is what it is.
One day, me and girlfriend (then) was seated and someone walked up to her and told her that she has successfully won my heart, the lady told her that she was crushing on me but well, I chose my girlfriend over her and it's cool.
I was not surprised because I expected things like that but I acted surprised though.
The problems started about 10 months into the relationship and lasted for 4 horrible months.
I don't want to talk about those months because it was hell. As Nigerian man, an igbo man, I cried. My people are strong, and I thought I was as strong but I cried almost every week because of the series of issues I was having with my girlfriend (then). It was like a never ending hell because she always does stupid things. Not stupid as in normal female troubles, stupid as in real stupid and things that are not supposed to be heard. I endured for 4 bad months and was hoping that with time, she will stop.
At some point, I missed my final exams for humanitarianism just some we can settle a quarrel. That's how bad it was. Thank God they allowed me to take a make up exams. The relationship was becoming toxic but I endured.
One day I went to her place to check upon her after a fight but couldn't find her. Though she told me she was going out to see her coursemate, I didn't expect her to stay as late as she did. 11pm and she was not yet back. I decided to stroll and I saw a car dropping her off and I told myself that it was the end.
I can forgive anything on earth but I cannot forgive my lady being with another guy.
I confronted her about it but she began to lie as usual so I decided to go away.
Ever since, she's been wanting us to make up but I can't. It is abominable for an igbo man to cry over a relationship but I did. Countless of times ad it really affected my pride. I felt like ending it at one point but well, I found comfort in myself.
Things actually ended in my favor because ever since I broke up, I wasn't at peace I initially and I missed her a lot, but through music and motivational videos, I found a way to get over her.
LESSONS I LEARNT
I learnt quite a lot. One of which is: when your respect is not there, back off after a few warning.
When she's not loyal, back off.
Maintain your self, set boundaries and avoid see finish.
Domt give more love than you receive
Be your best and if it's not reciprocated, back off.
Tolerating nonsense brings about more nonsense but setting boundaries will reserve your respect.
Don't love foolishly, use your head because love is not enough even in marriage.
Thank you for reading 😊
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