How do you define a relationship? I'm not an expert on this subject, in fact I could say I have little experience regarding this but yet it feels like I know it all. I always want to believe people get into relationship with the right intentions, what other reason is there? Naive I was. The definition of what a relationship should be like depends on individual perspective of it. In relation to this post, when I say relationship, I'm referring to a romantic relationship because in this modern era, there are categories of relationship that has span out of the desperation of humans to define their relationship with one another.
I'm not sure many remember the feeling, how it feels to be loved, how it feels to care deeply for someone and putting their needs above yours at all times. The constant rush for you to always want to run to your partner, to tell him/her how your day has been. How antagonising it feels anytime you find it difficult to use words to express your feelings. I see a relationship as an open book, that involves both partners exposing each others vulnerability and finding ways to work through it.
There are times in relationship whereby all you could wish for, is for your partner to really understand how you feel about something, the need for him/her to see things the way you do. But most times words can't fully reflect the things we truly want to say. Sadly there are some people who are not so good with using words to describe their emotions, I wouldn't lie, I do fall in this category. Trying so hard to find the right words that would do justice to illustrating my emotions, do you know how exhausting it feels, to be misunderstood and all you could say to yourself is, how I wish eyes could speak.
Wouldn't it be a lot easier? to look into your partner's eyes and suddenly you are comforted because within you, you know he/she understands. You don't have to constantly have to search for the right words, they could read you as plain as a book. You must be wondering, what exactly am I getting at? It is something unimaginable but then, the thought of it is appealing and comforting.
How would you feel? if you suddenly you discover your partner can read your mind all along without telling you about it. The feeling is something I can actually find the right words to quantify but I would try. I mean it will definitely feel confusing at first, knowing fully well that she made a fool out of me for the time we have been together. It would have been lovely if I knew, I wouldn't suffocate myself trying to explain everything because that is what I do. What will keep running through my mind would not be the fact that she has a super power but the fact that she kept it a secret.
Why would she do that? Is she scared of being judged? Is she terrified of being rejected because she is different? I mean these are reasons why people hide who they are in order to be accepted in the society, most especially by their loved ones. My reaction to a development like this would be to understand her reason for hiding it because if she could hide something like that, what other stuff could she be hiding? Trust in relationship can be very fragile, all it takes is just a little crack and a flood of doubt and questions will come rushing out.
What will this mean for the relationship? Will it be a deal breaker? I don't think so. I mean for so many people, their first thought would be about the lies their partner might have discovered. For me I wouldn't. I mean if I had told her any lies and yet she still stayed, tolerated it despite knowing, that kind of loyalty is priceless. Well, if there was ever any foul play from my side, it would definitely be the best time to go on my knees and start apologizing 😅 because I know she knows it all, so why not uncover it all but sincerely I would be glad.
If I knew my partner could read my mind from the beginning, would I still get in a relationship with such a person? As long as it is the person I have chosen to be mine, it is definitely a yes. That would be amazing. Though it would have been better if it goes both ways, I mean she can read my mind and I can read hers. But regardless I would still go with it. A lot of complications occurs in today's relationship due to lack of proper communication.
The most tricky part of communication in relationship is that there are some people who really want to explain things to their partner but they don't know how and in that moment their partner feels like they are shutting them out, this is common among most men. With this new unexpected twist, if utilised properly, it would be a solution to communication issues in relationships.
This write-up was inspired by weekly featured content titled Reading your mind in hive learners community.
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