I used to have a lot of issues with putting myself first, and in fact, it was not until recently that I cautiously tried to correct that. Before, I would go to any length to help anyone without having the intention of getting anything in return. I used to trust people a lot as well, and I used to have no boundaries at all. It was hard to say no to things because I was too empathetic, and I would always be looking out for their own feelings alone and completely ignoring mine.
When I got admitted to the university, I lived in the school hostel for a while, and I honestly had a good time living with my roommates. Since they would change our rooms and roommates the next year, I wasn't interested in staying in the school hostel anymore, so I decided to stay off-campus. A girl I used to know wanted to process her admission to the university but had issues with paying her acceptance fee. Apparently, the date for payment had closed before she got the money.
She came to school with her guardian, and since I had already attended the school for a year, I knew my way around the school better than she did. I opted to help, and we went through a lot before eventually getting the issue solved, and we were eventually able to make the payment. After the whole thing, she asked if we could stay together. I discarded my initial plan of staying alone off-campus and agreed to let us stay together.
She brought just a few things and very few foodstuffs. She said she would bring the rest later, and I was not actually bothered at all because I knew the state of her family. I was okay with sharing my things with her. I would bring a lot of food and provisions to school, and we would take them together. I would even foot the bills most of the time, and I was really okay with doing all of these, to be really honest. I was even glad that I was in a position to help. In fact, I just saw her as the junior sister I never had.
I have been an entrepreneur since my first year, and at the time we were staying together, I was still doing my business. She got this particular nice set of bags from me and promised to pay the following week. Only if she would pay tomorrow, but thats, by the way. Living with people can actually be a lot; we had our differences and found ways to control the situations, but we did not have so many misunderstandings.
There was this time that things were a little tight for me, and I was going through a lot financially. I didn't have so many foodstuffs, and my business was facing a lot of pressure because I had some loans to pay back. To cut the long story short, this person started cooking separetely, and the one that shocked me most were the times she would cook and eat before I got back from school. Well, God was indeed faithful throughout these times, because he actually sent helpers my way, and I was so positive things would get better.