THE INFLUENCE OF PARENTING AND THE PLACE OF CHOICE IN EVERY CHILD

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Raising a child is not an easy task at all, and it takes more than just teaching and guiding them. Children learn in various ways; they might know things their parents will never know they are even aware of. With what the world has become lately, a lot of things can influence the path that a child will take in life. If there is one thing I have come to understand when it comes to bringing up a child, it is that parents can only try their best, and they will always have a will of their own. This does not mean the teachings of their parents are in vain; they are always with them, embedded deeply.

Using myself as an example, I had all the freedom I could ever dream of when I was in school, and that didn't make me misbehave or take decisions my parents would not be proud of. In a way, their warnings and lessons always stayed at the back of my mind, keeping me in the right lane at all times. Of course, I could have chosen to turn deaf ears and blind eyes to everything, but I chose not to. At the end of the day, it was my personal decision and will that helped me remain on track.

I have seen children grow up in godly homes with all the right training they need to have a good life, and they deviate from it at the end of the day. I have also seen children who grew up without so much guidance and still chose to lead a great life. What I see here is the concept of 'choice' and parents can only hope their children make the best choices, while they also try their best to put them on the right path. For this new generation of parents, there is even more work to do since a lot of abnormal things have been made totally normal in society.


I have not become a parent yet, but if my child were to grow up and choose to deviate from the path I have put them on, I would definitely not be glad, but I would approach it with maturity. I will sit them down to have a conversation and see things from their point of view. If I am convinced enough, I will support them, and if I am not, I will let them see my point of view without judging theirs or behave in a controlling manner. Looking at religion, for instance, I have a brief story to tell about this:

My dad is a Muslim, and my mom is a Christian. Religion was very confusing for me as a child, but I have always loved Christianity more. I would peep during C.R.S. class when I was still in primary school, and I always did poorly in Arabic and Islamic Studies. Growing older, religion was not stable for me until I got to university. I became a full Christian, and this is not to the knowledge of my dad, even up until now. I plan to sit him down one of these days and have a conversation with him. I don't know what his reaction will be, but I am really hoping he will support me and allow me to choose the religion I most connect with.


Apart from religion, I have read some entries, and the issue of sexuality has been brought up a couple of times. This is something every parent dreads, even as woke as society has claimed to be. I also really will not find it funny if my child says that he feels like another gender or that he or she is attracted to the same gender. See ehn, God forbid x1000000!😂because I don't even know how I will handle such a situation. However, my view on this topic has always been that those people who chose this path made that choice by themselves—they made that choice to be what they are claiming to be!. Whatever you feed your mind grows in it, innit?The first thing I will do is to lecture my children on all these things from the beginning, so their curiosity won't make them start making wrong decisions.

Parenting is not easy at all. May God help us to be amazing parents and worthy role models for them.


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Indeed parenting is not easy because as a parent you need to give your children the best information, not the best clothes. Anything a parent is telling their children, they need to be sure that is the right thing because those children will ask questions someday and if there is no good answer, they will start doubting you and that will make them seek for knowledge else where.

Love conquers all things! Don’t only try to gain permission to be a Christian from your dad, still look for a way to save him in love. It will be hard but it is possible. As Christian’s we know that the only way anyone can be saved is through Jesus Christ and nothing else but it’s hard convincing those who claim they know Christ not to mention those who don’t even believe in him at all but don’t worry about that, just share the gospel 🥰.

Yeah, Children are naturally curious and that is why it is important to always find good and convincing answers to their questions.

Actually, the conversation I want to have with him is not to gain permission per say, it is to make him fully aware. Somehow, he would have known that we have chosen that path and he is probably waiting patiently for us to acknowledge it and make him involved in the decision. My dad is a very calm person and I am very certain it will go smoothly.

Oh! That is way better then 🥰. I’m sure everything will go fine 🤗

You are right, parenting is not easy at all.

At all.

Many times our children's path in life is not the same as ours, they are people free to choose their own path and we as parents have to support them, help be their advisors on this journey that is life.

Thats's just the fact, you understand perfectly.

Truly parenting is tasking. It's not bread and butter. The best parents can be is to endeavour to be role models to their children not that they can't leran from others. Children will easily follow your path when they see you have great results. The same goes for the aspect of faith. We all grew to honour our father's faith because we saw and we're still seeing him with crystal clear results. Although there were some parts we expected him to do better. He is our role model in faith. When it gets tough sometimes, we would say pray with "the God of my father" - we could say that because he showed us overwhelming results. Till today, we still involve him in all that we do, we see him as our prophet and he never fall our hand. 😊 😊

Aww, that is very beautiful and I am sure he will be super proud.

Yes, he is 😊😊.

Being a parent is not easy and I must say, you have said it right to the aspect that training a child is not enough to determine the path that he will lead to, it is all left to their decision to make. They craft their future with their own hands and we the parents serves as guardians to them to make them realise the gravity of the decision they make.

Exactly! That is just it...Thank you so much for your brilliant contribution

Raising a child is definitely not a joke,Some children naturally feels obligated to listen to the instructions of their parents, while some children despite the guidance and strict principles of their parents they still choose to be wayward. Like you said it is a matter of choice because at the end the child will be the one to reap the consequences of his/her actions.

It must have been really confusing for you to have two type of religion actively practiced in a house by your parents, I never thought that was possible. I mean I have seen families that start like this but eventually the wife or the husband will end up converting but both religion being practiced simultaneously is definitely new to me.

The detest for homosexuality is common among most Africans most especially Nigerians because we are culture oriented people and same sex marriage has never been a part of our culture.

the issue of sexuality has been brought up a couple of times.

O.O I have no idea but I think id be ok lol as long as the child is happy but not everyone is as open minded I guess