“Charity begins at home.”
This has to be one of the truest statements I’ve ever heard since I started understanding words and meanings. I’m sure that whoever was the first person to say this, must have been shown premium shege from either family or friends for them to come up with such a deep phrase.
When you think about it, on the one hand, it looks simple, but on the other hand, it’s just a raw fact. A lesson that many of us need to learn because we’re just so ridiculously guilty of this. Some are guilty of this without even being aware of it, while others know very well what they’re doing and simply do not care.
There is nothing more painful than seeing a loved one who should be helping you out, helping others but leaving you alone. It can be very infuriating indeed. It’s just like a kid refusing to do chores in his own house, but the moment he goes to his friend’s house, he’ll be the one doing all the chores just to make them happy.
Now, his friend will think this is how he does at home, not knowing that everything is just a façade, just a trick. This is kind of painful. I know of a man who would rather come to church and make large donations to charity, but he’d still be owing on rent and his children’s school fees. Whenever others go to school, his children would be at home because they were kicked out.
Now, I’m not saying it’s bad to give to the poor and less privileged in our community, but it should never be to the detriment of our family because then it won’t make sense. If you use your wife’s hospital bills to buy food for a hungry man, if your wife ends up dead you’d be responsible for that death! This looks like overkill, but you’d be shocked to know that there are people like that.
They seem to thrive on being two-faced! At home, they’re one person but in public, they’re something else entirely. In church, everyone knows them as rich, generous, and hardworking, but at home, they’re poor, wretched, and hardly eating. I don’t really know what they stand to gain from such acts, but I do know that it’s always hard to stop. And I think it stems from the need to always please people.
Your family doesn’t have a choice if you’re lazy, broke, or selfish, they have to accept you like that. However, the public doesn’t give a damn about you if you’re those things. The public needs to know that there’s something they’d stand to gain if they pay attention to you, so you’d do everything in your power to give them the illusion that you have something to give. Even to the detriment of your family.
It’s sad, you know… there are men who will be the heads of dozens of groups in the church but at home, they can’t even lift a finger to assist the wife or kids in doing anything. Sadly though, this works for both genders. This is a sad reality that we’ve found ourselves.
People have found way too much comfort in trying to be who we’re not, we prefer to act for others while our family suffers for it. Why not be that person you’re pretending to be? Why not be the good and generous person that everyone else knows you as, why not be all that to your family as well? For some reason, that can never happen. At home, they don’t have even a kobo. But once they step outside, they’re ready to spend on whoever is available.
This is why it’s said that God only looks at the heart and not the acts. Because a lot of us do good only for selfish reasons and since we can’t read minds, we only assume that they’re doing it from their heart. Please, let’s all try to do better. Let’s remember that charity should always begin at home. Help when you can but don’t let your kid starve just so that you would look good in the eye of the public.
That’s just horrible.
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