Being a human, we have a complicated relationship with change. It is both inevitable and essential for growth. But it feels more uncomfortable when it's out of our control. It's not like taking the same bus route each day and recognising the scenery. As life is not a bed of roses all the time. Sometimes the route changes all of a sudden and everything changes in our lives that totally transforms who you are.
Sometimes life gets so cruel and shows us its true colours which we're not familiar with but even then we have to make sure that we're not color blind. Life brings us many challenges and they're so inevitable that we're not even prepared to face them. It's not easy to embrace them when they're forced upon us against our will and our capacity to tolerate them. They seem bigger than us, we're suffering and wishing that these things would have never happened but then, a time comes when we come to understand the power of acceptance. We start accepting things as they are.
During the last year of my college life, I have learned the power of acceptance when my dearest friend died in a road accident who I've been friends with since 8 years old. I was so reluctant to believe that he's no more. I dealt with enough grief and trauma to accept that fact. I can't even describe my heart still gets heavy and eyes gets wet. It sent me into depression and I didn't see any meaning of life anymore because it was all on my mind that how would I be able to visit the same places I once visited with him, I won't be able to go to classroom alone, those restaurants, clubs, playgrounds, cinemas, every place seemed to appear as a haunting house.
Junaid faced an horrible death which i can't explain here. He was so innocent soul and i might get any other friend like him. As you people might have heard that time passes even if it is good or bad. But time wasn't passing for me at that moment of life.
But then İ had to accept things as they were. I had to gather my broken pieces in order to console others and make them strong and myself as well. Maybe someday things might work out but at that time it seemed impossible because I had to console his parents. We both had something huge in common and that was our loss. So in short, I accepted the reality of life. I still miss him. I still go to the place I once visited with him but now I see them differently. They always remind me of the laughters that we shared together. I make time for his parents and often check on them how they are doing.
So the major lesson I got from this incident is the belief that everything happens for a reason and that better things will always follow. That’s the beginning of true acceptance. I know it’s hard to practice acceptance when you deeply wish things were different. But the truth is, sometimes we can’t change our reality, even if we try. So accept the reality and life will reward you something you have never even imagined.
Also i have learned that whosoever you loose, no matter what, this life will go on and a time will come when that bad incident will turn into your memories (not sure if bad or good). I still remember him but my life is going on as usual.
Well, this was all from my side.
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