We can all make mistakes, but infidelity will never be a mistake infidelity is a betrayal is a conscious and voluntary act that any of us can avoid it, instead, a mistake is when we make a mistake involuntarily because when people are committing infidelity is aware of what he is doing regardless of the damage it causes so the betrayal is the worst damage that can make us who claims to love us.
Many times we abuse forgiveness and we confuse it with a series of things we confuse it with reconciliation, but there can be forgiveness without reconciliation as there can be reconciliation without forgiveness, how many couples after an infidelity say they have forgiven their partners, but at the slightest problem they rub them everything they did there we are reconciling not forgiving many times we expect that the other person apologizes to be able to forgive, but what we do not understand that when we put a condition that is already a transaction is negotiation is to say apologize to me and forgive you that completely violates the strict definition of forgiveness that is unconditional does not require anything from the other.
I believe that second chances is to recognize that as human beings we are all imperfect and we can make mistakes and only those people who are perfect do not need a second chance because they would never commit a betrayal, but in our case it does not reflect our human condition, this does not mean that we are obliged to give second chances if we are betrayed, This does not mean that we are bad at all, it is a very personal decision of each person, we have to be willing to take the risk for that person because in every opportunity as everything in life there is a risk, love itself is a risk because we bet everything for something that we do not know if it will work or not.
The best forgiveness is to forgive with the soul, we cannot control the world in general, we cannot avoid pain and betrayals unfortunately, but we can have our period of "mourning" so to speak and I forgive, I discard it from me because I did not act wrong, I see it that way I was hurt and I also sink in pain with questions like what did I do wrong, where did I fail, I do not fall in love again, I am not enough, I am not enough? I forgive myself because I deserve to live in harmony and peace, I am not going to hurt myself, you have to have self-love to move forward after the bumps in love and in general.
Betrayal is a wide road and fidelity is a thin line in the middle of it.
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