But then the desire to rule alone doesn't qualify you as a ruler

Certainly! If the people wouldn't want you to rule you definitely can't rule over them because otherwise, it won't be leadership anymore. It's nice to read that a lot of women here aspire to be a leader because it goes to show that a lot here want change. Thanks for sharing your thoughts, I really learned something from it— especially that proverb, I never read about it before so that's quite meaningful for me.