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This week's topic:
Selfishness - Do you think that as a society we are selfish or supportive? What do you think is more beneficial for a person, being selfish or being supportive?
A story was told about a lady who was in need and ran to her friends for help but could only get help from one of her friends who went as far as using her savings to save her friend and meet her needs at the time of her challenges.
Well, according to this friend, her friend had begged her to loan her the money and since this money was her savings for her house rent, and wouldn't be needing it, she gave it to her supposed best friend. Luckily, with her help, her friend was able to get out of the situation and promised to pay back immediately after she started working.
Thankfully, she did start working but she did not make any effort to pay up the money she got from her friend, at first, her friend wasn't perturbed about it until she needed the money to settle her bills which was the main aim of the money from the onset.
Her friend refused to pay back the money saying she did not have such an amount of money and felt her friend should have let go of such an amount of money as it was nothing to her. Her friend was surprised and hurt because of her friend's words and tried to laugh off what she said, thinking she was joking but unknown to her that her friend meant every word she said.
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She begged and begged, even reminding her what she needed the money for, and also reminded her that the money was for her house rent but her friend wasn't having it and walked her out of her house to go sort herself elsewhere.
What makes it interesting is that even though she had borrowed her friend that sum of money, she had also given her some money to help her sort out her issue which was her way of helping her friend, and still went ahead to borrow her rent money and when this particular friend came running to her for help, a mutual friend warned her against lending her the money because she had an encounter with her about same issue but this friend wouldn't have it and said this lady was her best friend and needed help.
Well, she ran to friends who helped her with the money to pay for her rent and that was why she sorted herself out and her other friend who she lent her rent money to, has refused to pay her back till today and both of them have been at headlong because of such act.
She wants her friend to refund the money she got from her as a loan while her friend is saying that she isn't giving her the money, we'll, since there was no written arrangement of any sort, the person who lent her supposed friend will be the one to lose because she has nothing to show that the money was a loan or given.
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Two friends at Headlong because one person decided to be supportive and the other decided to be selfish. At the end of the day, the supportive friend was blamed for removing her rent savings to help her friend and she felt hurt and betrayed that her being supportive was not appreciated.
This brings me to this conclusion, we must learn to think about ourselves first before we decide to go out of our way to be supportive of others, it doesn't take away the aspect of going out of our way to help or be supportive of others but it reminds us that we are human and so as the next person and anything can happen at any time.
Let's not forget the fact that when her friend needed help, she not only loaned her the money she requested, but she also gave her friend some money which of course wasn't a loan, and I believe that would have been enough but then, she didn't want her friend to suffer while she has such amount of money and so, out of her generous heart loan her friend the money to get it back when she needs it to sort out her issue but she never got it back and may likely not get it back.
The world needs people who are both ways, SUPPORTIVE and SELFISH, so we need to learn to be balanced and be both things depending on situations, I have had my share of being supportive and it came back biting me hard and painful and I have decided never to exceed such grace to anyone.
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It is of course good to be kind, and it is beautiful to be supportive, in fact, everyone needs that one person who is supportive in their corner, but we should learn not to be supportive at our detriment or risk, being supportive doesn't mean, we can not say NO, or shouldn't know when to say NO.
We shouldn't let anyone put us in a fix because we are being supportive, and we should learn when to be selfish, the world is "Survival of the fittest" and the truth is when people know your weak point, they will know how to get away with anything and will continue to feast on it.
The world is a wild place, therefore it needs someone who is a little to the right and a little to the left, someone who is supportive and selfish, both are beneficial as well because both pay depending on the situation, especially in a situation like the one I just gave above.
Humans are predictable, so it is advisable to be on the safe side, be logical in thinking, and not use your emotions because they may put you at a risk worse than the lady in my story.
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