My Ideal Romantic Relationship

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Relationships - When we agree to be in a romantic relationship with someone: Does that person own us? Do we own that person? Why do you think some people believe their partner belongs to them or that they own them? Would you be in a relationship with someone who thinks they own you? Why?

Hello #lqc_community, how are you doing? Happy weekend.I am excited to be here once again so, I welcome you back to my blog. This week’s prompt is a very broad one. I have dwelled on it for two days. But I gotta hit it right away. Let’s go.
Relationship? What is it all about?

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I can define a relationship as a mutual communication built on the foundation of trust between two or more people who understand each other. It could be between friends, families, associates, students, traders, colleagues, etc. Most often, the basis for this relationship is to help and support each other.

However, depending on the level of commitment, relationships could be romantic or disastrous.

When I agree to enter into a romantic relationship with someone, it is for mutual understanding, respect, peaceful co-existence, sharing of ideas, opinions, trust and love. Not for ownership, power tussle or contorl. I see the issue of ownership in a romantic relationship as a poor mentality. This is because for me, a romantic relationship should not be a case of a winner taking all, but rather a foundation and system of support to each other, where there is freedom of expression, no matter whose Ox is gored instead of fear of intimidation.

However, it is said that “he who blows the Piper dictates the tune.” In most romantic relationships the common reason for such ridiculous ownership mentality ls because one party is financially liable to the other. Then gradually, the other party takes possession of the one who is a liability, claiming ownership of the partner as property to manage in their own way. They become a dictator and order their partner around instead of a mutual co-existence; one automatically becomes a dictator who owns the other just by virtue of being financially liquid than the partner.

Again, some cultures believe that the female does not really have a voice and therefore should be under the male, no matter what. I see this as a weakness and an issue of an inferiority complex.
Furthermore, some religions also believe that females are under the male and should only express their views through the male. All these contributes to the ownership mentality in romantic relationships.

But for me, I do not think I will thrive in such a romantic relationship. It is one of the reasons I have worked hard to be independent financially, outside of being a value-added driven individual. I say this because being a liability in a romantic relationship can be disastrous with all the challenges out there especially in the developing country like mine.

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So I won't be in such a relationship. I think that the ability to add value in a romantic relationship will go a long way toward building mutual respect in such a relationship.
Therefore, I would rather be in a relationship where I am valued and cared for without any ulterior motive. A relationship that is built on mutual understanding, respect, trust, and freedom of opinion. A relationship where my voice is heard and my feelings respected.

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Good points on ownership in relationships! 🤔 Happy to see deep dives like this in the #lqc_community blog! 👍

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This is absolutely true
Most people think they own their partners because their partners are financially dependent on them.
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I have witnessed occasions like that several times where the partner was bragging about how the other one will be hopeless if not because of him.

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I agree with all your points, ownership in a relationship is tantamount to slavery. A relationship should be built on mutual understanding, love and respect where the two parties can help each other grow.

Exactly, thank you for throwing more insight to the write -up.
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This is so true 💯
When there is totally dependent based of financial support in a relationship,it warrants ownership in relationships.
A mutual relationship without any ulterior motive keeps ownership away from relationships.

Nicely written dear.

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I have seen such play out in my neighbourhood many times ⏲️
Most times ,the romantic relationship will turn to a toxic one because of liability.

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True 💯
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a foundation and system of support to each other

Exactly! Both must become the safety net for the other person, so that both can grow and achieve their personal and couple goals.

one party is financially liable to the other.

OMG! I haven't thought about that. I didn't considered the financial situation to be one of the factors that contribute to this kind of mentality.

Oh Yes, financial liability puts burden on one party and sometimes is disastrous in a romantic relationship.
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