He was very annoying and frustrated me alot of times till i couldn't take it anymore and i spoke to him rudely.
I had a roomate, he always has issues with everyone and his behaviour is not just it all, he tries to bully his mates and also always try to be funny in serious situations.
He was always getting on my nerves and was frustrating the hell out of me. Yes I know it's normal to want to play and laugh over every single thing but you should know the limit to that.
I kept my bottle water on a table in the room and i left the room ,on getting back I couldn't find my water anymore,as a right thing to do I decided to ask for who drank the water to atleast know the person and know why he didn't ask for my permission before taking the water. I was very hungry and i actually wanted to make use of the water to eat cornflakes, and it was painful to find out someone drank it.
Immediately I asked the question "who took my bottle water??, he just said "I was the one that drank it" with so much confidence and he was smiling thinking I was joking with him. I went futher and asked him why he drank the water and even without my permission he just made a mountain out of a molehill and began saying things like " how much is the bottle water , I can buy you two if you want". I was so angry with the things that came out of this boys mouth , he was trying to justify his actions and claim he was right, this is someone that is very stingy and can hardly share his own things with others.
I was fuming but decided not to say anything because obviously I know myself and I knew if I decided to speak out of anger , we would literally throw punch and fight and it won't make any sense to be fighting over a bottle water. I just moved on and went out out to get a new one for myself. That passed and we moved on from there.
Now , another scenerio happened again there was a speaker we normally use to listen to songs in the room to atleast dance and have fun. What now happened was that the charging port of the speaker got spoilt and I was blamed for spoiling it , all because I was the last person to be seen trying to charge it even though my hands where clean, i was really broke but i still managed to drop a certain amount of money and two of my other roomates also dropped theirs and we paid the engineer to help us fix it. After fixing it ,it was brought back to the room and I decided to not even try to charge the speaker anymore so as not to be accussed of such again.
Now, a day came and I was just by myself with my phone, when this same boy just brought the speaker issue again, because he saw the speaker was charging and I was in the room he just said "if this speaker spoil again juwon no go one pay oo " meaning if the speaker should get faulty again , juwon will not want to pay ", when i wasn't even the one charging it in the first place.
At this point, I was fed up with the way he was always coming for me all because i was always calm in this situations. I couldn't take his behaviour anymore and I felt the best thing to do was to put him in his place and by doing so he would try and get my name out of his mouth and let me have peace. I didn't even notice when i said to him "You lack home training bro, I am sure your mum didn't take her time to raise you well, because if she did , you won't be behaving like a bastard" in Yoruba. He was so angry and we had alot of back and forth. Infact after that day, we didn't talk for about some weeks because that really got to him.
I would be sincere I felt bad for saying that to him , as i felt it was to harsh , for kind of sending him home and talking about his parents . I actually thought of apologising , but at the same time I didn't, all I did was just to promise myself not to ever say such to anyone again, because I know how i will feel if was also told that same thing.
What I said to him wasn't the right thing to say, but it did actually work because after that day he doesn't even try to come at me or speak to me anyhow because he knew i won't take it slightly and I might go as far as saying things that will hurt him.
It is good to atleast try to vent out anger and express how you really feel sometimes don't always try to be calm about everything because people normally see that as a weakness and continue to try and make use of that opportunity to say and do things that will get to you, all because they know you won't react. However, it's important to still be mindful of what you say and how you express yourself, when your are involved in such situations.
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