I think you’re right, but I also think she’s right. Tears can be a relief, yes, but it really depends on where they’re coming from.

If she still loves the man and doesn’t want to let go, those tears might come from a place of, “Why does he keep doing this to me? It hurts, but I love him.” In that case, the crying isn’t full release, it’s a mix of pain and attachment.

For tears to bring true emotional relief in that kind of situation, they often need to come from a place of, “I’m done. I deserve better.” That’s when the weight really starts to lift.

But it can go either way. Some women cry every time a man hurts them, until one day, they don’t. Not because it stopped hurting, but because there’s nothing left. They’re numb. They’re done. Others bottle it all up for a long time, then finally break down in tears… and walk away for good.

So, crying, while not necessarily a sign of weakness, isn’t always a safe haven either. For some, it heals. For others, it just hurts differently. It depends.