The universe surely has a funny way of communicating with us. And it's even more funnier how you might miss the nitty-gritty of that information in a two-second distraction. In as much as I dread being in confusing situations, I believe there is always a reason. And sometimes, nothing makes sense in the heat of the moment, but after everything dies down, you begin to see what you needed to see all along.
A month ago, if you told me that as a twenty-something year old lady my best friend would be a fifty-four year old woman, I would have screamed, "That's a gigantic lie!" And what is even more surprising is how we even met and became besties.
At first, I thought she was going to be just a fifty-four year old woman, but she turned out to be way too cool for her age. I was going through a rough patch, and I was this close to giving up on something. Even though that was unlike me, I still wanted to quit because I was tired, frustrated, and had no fight left in me.
I actually spoke to my agemates, and they all gave me the reasons I needed to give up. They talked about the whole "Do what makes you happy", "Leave when you want to," but they never saw the bigger picture. They didn't understand how conflicted I was.
So Ms Stacy painted the bigger picture for me. When I told her everything, she made me understand that it was normal to be feeling what I felt and to be reacting the way I was. She validated all my actions. She didn't belittle my emotions and behaviour. It shocked me because I was used to elders just throwing words at me the minute I don't act as expected.
Honestly, at a point, I was expecting her to rebuke me for something, but I waited and waited, and none of that came up in the conversation. She explained a lot of things to me and told me to rather go for what I believed in and that would eventually lead me to being happy. She made me understand that, in life, if you have grounds for being happy, then that happiness becomes everlasting.
Ms Stacy made me realise that sometimes you have to do things you may not want to do, which is part of the growth package. At the end of the day, what I learnt was more than I had learnt half of my life. When I think of that moment of enlightenment and love with Ms Stacy, I keep on asking myself "So this is what genuine friendship feels like?"
And for the first time in my life, it's weird that someone isn't friends with me because they want something from me. Moments with Ms Stacy make me smile, because never in a million years would I have come up with her words myself. Safe to say, I won at friendship this time.
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