There is a lot of certainty in these words that title my post for this week.
In my view of things, @trucklife-family , for a couple to get ahead, get stronger and flow properly, it takes more than that feeling.
It cannot be possible that I do everything in a unidirectional way, everything to sustain the relationship, that only one is the one who moves heaven, sea and earth for that person
I love, who of everything without receiving anything in return, who gives himself completely regardless that little by little one is becoming hollow, empty with nothing. And is that, as much as I love that someone, I can no longer afford to lose myself by seeking to complete someone else.
To this I add...
Betrayal in the relationship is unacceptable because it touches self-esteem and arouses a lot of anger.
Everything seems to collapse, although I also know that after setting limits we can be better.
When we have lived traumas with betrayal, setting limits sounds like this: "As I explain to my nervous system" that I am only setting limits and that I am not being chased by a lion 🦁.
Learning to embrace ourselves in the midst of pain is key to healing and avoiding dark thoughts because of the deep scars we feel.
It is better to strengthen our essence and not lose it if someone betrays us, because we would stop being who we really are.
I have to have more "eye" and more tact not to fall again. To make the lesson worthwhile is to learn from every experience, no matter how bad it is.
You learn from the bad, it's the most sensible thing.
Overcoming a betrayal is a difficult process full of intense emotions. I am clear that with the right help this pain can stop and transform to repair that wounded heart and move on.
Similarly, for independence (autonomy) and union in a relación.Se it needs commitment, respect, and trust, not only of love, but that it is understood that the relationship is of two, and even if it hurts, we must understand that when the couple is focused on other matters, the paths are distanced and the reunion can only be achieved when the decisions of both are respected.
I think that love should be free and voluntary so that it can be real and not conditioned because that's not what love is about, nor is that how healthy relationships are built.
There are many people who are tied up in a relationship that stopped bringing that dose of joy and peace to their lives. To live like this is to be tied to a suffering that we do not deserve to live. One of my presents (roses) of the loves of my life.
Janitze.🐝
Separator made with [Canva]( https://www.canva.com /) by @janitzearratia
Any images in this post are taken with my iPhone 12, the Infinix pro-note 30 or with the camera eighties Rolleiflex 2.8 f, and edited with [Canva]( https://www.canva.com /)
Translation with |DeepL
