Hey guys,
It’s been a while I joined a contest in the Hive ecosystem. Came across this one recently so I had to join it and it is hosted by the @indiaunited community. So I just recently got to find out that the community is a very engaging and supportive one and that prompted me to delegate some Hive power to them in my own little capacity and I'm hoping to delegate more in the nearest future when I can. The contest will be running weekly from what I learnt. So this week's theme is "If you had your choice , would you stay single or be in a relationship?" and you can read my entry below.
First of all, Being that I am someone who is not much of a loner. Even though it is good to be alone most times so that you can have the time to think about your life and how you can get to move forward in life. But being a loner can be boring especially to people like myself who is in their late 30s. As for teenagers and youths in their early 20 even to mid 20s it can be fun to be on your own. For someone who is older in age and has plans of starting a family or having a family, you will need to start considering getting a partner. So my own choice is that I prefer to be in a relationship with someone who actually cares about me first of all, and wants to spend the rest of their lives with me. Apart from that, there is no point of me being in a relationship if my partner does not see the future with me. That will be a waste of time on my ends. So in such a case , it is better I remain single than being in a relationship where I am the only one that cares about the other partner without any form of mutual care. My advice to youths who want to consider having a partner or getting into a relationship is that they should take out time and find out if their to be partner actually cares about them and also loves them dearly because we now live in a world where most marriages do not last long as expected anymore. Why such things happen is because the love did not exist in the first place at times the love was one-sided.
When I see marriages that last for one or two months it hurts me deeply even though I'm not close with the people involved because it actually looks messed up to see that or even hear that couples that were just recently loving up themselves are filing a divorce in less than no time and to me, another factor that leads that is the fact that the relationship was based on material things rather than the person involved. Cheating also is one of the most likely factor that leads to seperation or breakup but in my own opinion I think that even when you find out your partner is cheating on you, you can give them room for changing and while doing that, also try finding out from them or from your own self what you could be doing wrong that will prompt your partner to consider cheating on you. Maybe consider wearing something sexy more often that's for the ladies, check up on your partner from time to time. Be more caring cos neglect can lead to cheating too. Give your partner gifts. For the men, buy your partner gifts, give them more attention. Take them on a date so you both can have a nice time more often.
I do not think that love is something that should be forced because being in a relationship with the right person will make you glow. It is definitely show in you as you will look younger. But being in the wrong relationship will make you look stressed always. For instance, I see most partners who always try to please their partner but don't get the love and care in return. Some of them even experience domestic violence even when they are yet to get married to each other. When I mean domestic violence it doesn't only apply to the men physically abusing the women cos they are women who abuse men physically too. So in cases like this, my candid advice is that you flee from such a relationship. One of the major causes of abusive relationships is bad mouth so please mind what you say to your partners and the tone you use in talking to them as this may be annoying most times. Always pamper your partners as everyone loves to be pampered irrespective of their gender.
In conclusion,whenever you feel like you are not getting back the same energy of love, care, compassion and affection you are giving out to someone who is supposed to be your partner, it is better to stay single than be in a relationship that you perceive will be a toxic one or is already a toxic one. I hope this post is beneficial to someone out there cos people go through a lot in their pursuit of true love. So to answer the theme of this week, I love being in love , but only with someone who loves me back with the same amount of energy or even more. So if I had my choice, I would be in a relationship. thanks for reading guys. You can join the contest also via link below:)
https://hive.blog/hive-197685/@indiaunited/indiaunited-new-contest-and-last-241078e50a4f4
