Wow, what a contrast! Jerry sounds like a real joy! Lol.

The balancing point somewhere between total @sshole and wanting to be your best friend is really the sweet spot when it comes to neighbors.

I've been lucky except for one of our neighbors in the last house we lived in. She was a voyeur, would always be staring at us from her windows. She also had a penchant for passing out drunk while she was cooking meals. I always imagined she was like Julia Child, drinking more wine than she used in her recipes. She had the fire department over there more than a few times. Other than that, we've been extremely lucky.