If I could talk to my younger self, I seriously would have a lot of things to say, you see sometimes I just sit and think about how life has turned out, and I can’t help but imagine what I would say to the younger version of me, the one who thought she had everything figured out, but really she didn’t.
First thing I would tell her is to calm down ,like, seriously just calm down, you see I was such a rebellious teen at one point of my life, mostly because of the things going on around me, I felt like nobody really understood me, and the more people tried to correct me then, the more I felt the need to fight back, if only I knew that not everything needed a reaction or something , and that silence sometimes says more than words, I probably would have handled some things differently.
I would also tell myself to save better, you see back then, I did not even understand what saving meant, If money touched my hand then , see that was the end , I must spend it, see what I would tell my younger self, Babe, no be every money you see you go use buy things wey dey enter eyes, keep small for tomorrow. because honestly, if I had learned the habit of saving early, life would have been so much easier in so many areas that period.
Another thing I would say to my younger self is to work smarter and not just harder, there were times I felt like I was doing so much, but looking back, I realize I was not even focused, I was just busy for the sake of being busy, I would tell myself to plan better, to be more intentional, and to stay ahead, life is easier when you are prepared for the unknown.
And about relationships hmm...., I would definitely have a long talk with myself on this particular one, I made some decisions back then that I wish I didn’t, sometimes I think about how I got into a relationship out of pressure , out of guilt and not genuine desire, I was just trying to fill a void I thought needed to be filled and maybe looking for care or attention, and it cost me my peace, so yes, I would tell my younger self not to rush love, don’t go into anything because of what people say or because you feel lonely, just love yourself first, so that when someone comes, you will know your worth.
Most importantly, I would tell her to believe more in herself, you know I had moments when I doubted everything ,my dreams, my abilities, and even my future, i would tell myself that every setback will make sense one day, that the things I thought would break me would actually build me into who I am now.
If only I could sit across from that younger version of me, I would hold her hand and say, you will be fine, just breathe, take life one step at a time, and don’t let the noise of the world make you lose focus.
Because truly, if I knew then what I know now, maybe I would have made fewer mistakes , but then again, those mistakes made me who I am today.
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