Saying he will be a dictator on Day 1 and will use the military to go after his political opponents aren't just "saying mean things."
But there's also Project 2025 which will cut medicare, Medicaid, Social Security, ban contraceptives, use the military for local law enforcement and a bunch of other things that were so unpopular with voters that he kept claiming he had nothing to do with it. (Except for it being written by all his close associates and now right after the election they're saying yes, that is the plan.)