I do not usually talk about this, but lately, it’s been sitting heavy on me, that feeling of being "just average." Not special. Not the first choice. Not even noticed sometimes.😖
I’ve gotten used to not being invited. To not being part of the plans. And you know what? I am tell yourself it’s okay, that I am used to it, that it doesn’t bother me anymore. But truth is, it still stings me every single time.
It’s like people already have this idea of me that I am quiet, simple, and not capable. They don’t say it out loud, but you feel it in how they treat you. They assume that I can’t handle certain things, that I'm not cut out for more. They underestimate me, and after a while, you start to wonder if they’re right.
But I know I’m more than what they see.
I know what I’ve gone through, what I’ve carried silently, and what I’m still carrying now. I may not be the loudest in the room, but I feel things deeply. I work hard. I have ideas. I’m kind. And I’m capable — even when no one gives me a chance to show it.
Sometimes, I just sit back and admire the kind of people who treat others with pure kindness, the ones who smile at everyone, who don’t judge, who make space for people like me.
Because honestly, we never really know what someone is going through. Behind every quiet person is a storm they’ve learned to live with. And sometimes, just being noticed… just being included… that means everything.
I know I’m not alone in this. There are so many of us who feel invisible. Those who go through life giving their best, but never getting the recognition. Those who celebrate our wins quietly, because no one’s really watching anyway.
But here’s the thing, just because they don’t see it, doesn’t mean it’s not real.
I can be quiet and still be strong, and I can be simple and still be full of dreams. I can be average in the eyes of the people around and still capable of so much more.
I have learned that sometimes, the most powerful thing I can do is keep going even when no one believes in me. I always remind myself to keep on being kind, keep on showing up, keep on surprising them.
So if you’re reading this and you’ve ever felt left out, small, or invisible… I see you. I know how it feels. And I want you to know, you are not alone.
One thing I am sure of is that, Yes! I'm not the loudest, and yes! I do not always shine the brightest. But I matter. I have something to offer. I'm still growing and I am capable of so much more.