You speak wise words, and I didn't know about the mod thing lol.
You haven't mentioned internet dating sites, even worse than the Chinese thing, (I have had some decent stuff off them actually, the rubbish I return for a refund), a few years ago I hooked up with a woman after seeing her pix, met in real life.....it was like going on a date with my mum!!!!!
Being the gentleman that I am I fled as fast as my little legs could carry me LOL, no action for me tonight my little soldier remarked Ho Hum. lessen learnt!