As we journey in life, we would have experienced situations where we find it difficult to let go of whatever is in our possessions. These things can weigh us down because they are like heavy loads being mounted on us, and in our spaces blocking the chance of creating new experiences. This is what I call the baggage of life.
Baggage can come in different forms; the physical ones where we find it hard to let go of those items in our closet, find it hard to declutter those beautiful items we are attached to in one way or the other but are taking lots of space in our homes. We have emotional baggage like experiencing traumatic events, being in unhealthy relationships, unresolved conflicts etc. Then, we have the psychological baggage that affects our personality like self-doubts, negative self-talk, limiting one's beliefs and so on.
All these are baggage that hold us down in reaching our full potential in life. I used to say that whatever we are experiencing today isn't new anymore because someone else has experienced it similarly and has overcome it. How did they let go? Is it easy to let go? How did they find the light at the end of the tunnel?
The truth is that everyone encounters one baggage or the other and it is necessary to not dwell much on it so that we can move ahead in life instead of being stuck on the road and no headway because we have allowed ourselves to be halted. Let me tell you something: we are responsible for what happens to us after a bad situation. Many times, we don't choose what happens to us but are responsible for what happens next and it is either we let go or hold onto such things or experiences while it keeps hurting us the more.
If you decide to hold onto that baggage, it will only negatively affect your life and stop you from reaching your full potential and if you choose to let go completely, then you will see how your life will transform and make more meaning.
The last time I had the opportunity to talk to and advise someone was many years ago while I was doing my Nigerian Certificate in Education (NCE) program. This lady was a friend whom we both lived together in the same compound whose room was adjacent to mine. For over a year, she had been in a toxic relationship where the guy hit her. She was too young for that mistreatment and not someone that should be in such a relationship but she couldn't stop herself from disengaging from it. According to her, she preferred to be hit every time than to leave the guy because he was doing all she wanted.
Seeing her swollen face every time, I had to speak my mind for her to let go. I pitied her when she finally said it was over as she couldn't continue anymore. I was happy with that and it made me say a few more words that got into her. Although I was very young then, I understood what it means to let go of such a relationship before things get worse and perhaps lose her life in the process. I told her to focus on herself more and believe that the best would come. For months, she couldn't let go of the physical and emotional experience and the pain kept increasing.
After a year of graduating from college, she texted me one day and told me of her new relationship and how she was preparing to get married as the new guy had proposed to her. I was so happy for her because she decided to let go of her past relationship for a better one.
We don't have to cage ourselves and endure the emotional pain it brings to us when we can finally say bye-bye to those things holding us down. Instead of suffering in pain, there is always a way out to free ourselves from the cage of pain we have put ourselves in and find the best moment of our lives to enjoy and create peace for us. We need to recognize our true selves and believe in our special abilities to make the best for ourselves rather than limiting ourselves to being great.
Though letting go can be so difficult, when we can realise the benefits we would derive from it when we finally say no to those things keeping us behind instead of moving forward, we will see that life is more fun than the pain we have subjected ourselves to. You just have to take that step to recognise what is keeping you back, holding you down and making you doubt yourself and understand that no one will drag you out unless you do, and that would be the best moment and decision you ever make to live the best life you wanted.
If I ever meet someone who is struggling to let go of his or her physical or emotional experiences, I wouldn't hesitate to say all of these so that he or she can see the light at the end of the tunnel and this is why having someone around is helpful to make them feel more hopeful and motivated to move on with their lives rather than struggling to free themselves from the prison of the heart and mind.
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