When I was 13 years old I remember I had a competition with my childhood best friend, we used to look at each other's Facebook friend count and the idea was to beat him. So after a while we had thousands of friends added, some of them not even acquaintances but just friends in common. What was the goal? I really don't know, maybe just to be able to say that I had more friends than the other.
It is not something I recommend, it can be dangerous and later when you are a little more conscious it is a nightmare to delete all those contacts you don't want on your Facebook. The point is that although it was a child's game, many people in real life want to have many friends and be able to tell everyone that they have them. It is a very natural thing to want to have them, in fact we need friends.
Still, having a life where less is more I learned that in friendship it works the same way. I have always strived to be an approachable person and willing to help others when they need me, be it with acquaintances, friends or strangers, it's something I want to keep getting better at, but I have also learned that it doesn't mean I will call them all friends.
In fact I am more of a friend with whom you can be alone and talk about your deepest thoughts, than those who will be making jokes or jokes in a group of people and although it has taken me time, I have learned that it is okay to be, but this has also taught me that I must choose my friends well, that it is not about being with everyone with whom we have things in common but with those who encourage you to be better.
And especially nowadays that almost no one has time to sit down and have a deep conversation, but almost everyone prefers to send short videos or memes, it is more difficult to get friendships like these that look you in the face when talking and that talk to you and give advice, that is why although there are few friendships like these, less in this case is also more.
Having few deep friendships, but full of sincerity, has allowed me to enjoy much more conversations that go beyond the trivial, to have people that with my eyes closed I know that they will help me when I have a bad moment and with whom I will always be myself. But also having a minimalist mentality, allows you to strive to be your own good friend, listen carefully and help from the heart.
So I will have this mentality no longer makes me want to have an excessive amount of "friends", but I know that even though I have few it is not a sad thing but totally a blessing, it means I took the time to select them and I have the best ones. That doesn't close me off to the possibility of making many more friends, I just take the time to get to know them well and be a good friend first.
-Content entirely of my authorship and inspiration.
-Original text in Spanish, translated at DeepL.
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