I couldn't agree more, here in the west people will say things in the completely wrong way thinking that they are going to help the situation. It's far better to begin from a situation of trust and friendship, and if it's evident they might actually be interested in what you have to say. Sometimes your better off saying nothing at all than to just sharply criticize, all you do is hurt feelings and make a potential enemy. Excellent post, and you chose the teachings of some truly smart people, not just wise.