A lot of young people do not have a clue about what is involved in a “great marriage.” Some say their parents never really talked to them about what goes into a marriage. Others said the marriages they saw on TV or in the movies were not very realistic or appealing. Still others said they were not sure they ever wanted to get married because they had never seen a marriage worth having and so many people they knew were divorced.
I have come to realize that a lot of us have the opinion that courtship and marriage are 2 worlds apart but in actual terms life has shown and taught that marriage is a continuation of courtship + the legalized benefits that come with living under the same roof. Marriage is such a broad topic with many variations and dimensions but for this morning I will only try to share with you few keys that can guarantee a great marriage.
In truth, People want the dream, but most people do not know how to achieve it. They do not know what makes a good marriage work or what it looks like and feels like to live through it day by day. I do not claim to have all the knowledge but as I studied for this write up and scanned through marriages of already married couples, I am convinced that the following keys will help and inspire you in no little way.
In the beginning God. This is a popular phrase I have picked up from Apostle Joshua Selman and It is the very foundation of every successful Christian marriage. We can never underplay the role of God in marriage this should be our pillar in entering marriage and you will see the grace of God manifest in your home in no small way. There will be storms and shaking that will sweep other homes within and without but with God you will stand. Ensure you pray and seal the deal with God before you go into it and if you are already in it and there are storms already, you can still call on him to speak peace to the wind.
Understand that the courtship continues, there is only so much you can discover during the first phase of your courtship days. There will be new discoveries that will shock you to your bone but If you are psychologically prepared with the understanding that you are on this discovery journey together the impact will be far less, and grace will be made available to forge on.
A good marriage is challenging work make no mistake about it. partners must be able to put love and respect first; they deal openly and honestly with disagreements, share the work and decision-making, have fun together, and are willing to change and grow. Great marriages become even stronger because of the partners’ living through challenging times together. And most found enormous comfort in their ability to help each other see beyond the pain to the pleasure they can share.
Be a great partner yourself. Matthew 7 vs 5. "You hypocrite, first get the beam of timber out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the tiny particle out of your brother’s eye." It is especially important to appraise yourself with the eyes of the spirit to be sure the problem is not you.
Love, by itself, is not enough neither is luck. You both must be committed every day of your lives to keep making each other happy. Ask yourself, “What have I done today to make my partner’s morning just a little nicer and the evening a little more fun?”
Proverbs 18 vs 22 states: He who finds a [true] wife finds a good thing and obtains Favor from the Lord. It is then clear that Favor is one of the key components of a good marriage.
Brethren that good and great marriage is possible.
BE INSPIRED.
