I'm a huge lover girl, I honestly feel when I was created I got 30% more love than other people. When it comes to expressing my love I show it in all five ways: Physical touch, gifting, quality time, words of affirmation, and acts of service. For me, the way I show it is how I intend to receive it.
Before I delve into the way I show these acts, I would like to emphasize that my love language is not exclusive to a romantic partner only but everyone I hold dear to my heart. That is why, I feel pressured into giving my friends a gift on their birthdays no matter how small it is or how uncomfortable it's for my budget.
Although my friends might understand me being short of money, I wouldn't be comfortable till I've shown them I love them by gifting. It could be data, a journal, a bracelet, or a DIY present but I won't feel better till I have a part of my love present in their homes, bags, etc. I believe this behaviour has made me have a high level of expectations from others. And so, gifting me is a big yes in love language.
A gift from a friend.
For quality time, both my friends and partner I prefer to meet up more and spend moments together, without the phone screens and daily hassle. I enjoy moving away from the world's prying eyes and just enjoying each other's solace. It makes my day better just knowing I spent it with people I love, forging a bond stronger than ever.
Holding the hands of someone you care about or getting a hug during a hard day can make your whole week better. Sometimes we don't want to hear words and that's ok. We need a hug, a shoulder to lean on and my friends can always count on me to be there whenever they need a physical presence. I've also been told I'm very soft so I warm your emotions and provide a cushion for your body. A win-win.
Acts of service might be one I struggle with because most times, I want to just read and write without a care in the world, but if someone I love ever calls out for help in cleaning, or doing something I can assist. Best believe I would turn up for them because I know that I would want them to do the same for me too.
As a writer, words of affirmation have never been a problem for me. I love using my words to portray emotions and have my friends and lovers blush, laugh or feel better with a sentence, paragraph or essay. It warms my heart to see their mood lighten or their day gets better because I was able to share how I see them in my eyes, in words. I see them as strong, beautiful, relentless, and amazing people who deserve the world. This particular language can never be taken away from me, because come rain or sunshine, money or not, I would always have affirmative things to say to my friends and lover.
All said and done, I hope you see how much of a lover girl I am and how I love sharing parts of me with people I care about. It brings me joy and most especially makes me even happier to be friends with people who reciprocate my love in their way or the same way.
