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Abuse has become very common in our time; there's virtually no day you go online and don't get to see a case of abuse, and people seem to be turning blind eyes away from it.Abuse is not just about physical beating only, because that is what most people think when you talk about abuse. Abuse can also be verbal, emotional, mental, financial, and any other kind you can think of.
Just yesterday I came across a video of a lady who was in a video call with another lady, and the lady at the other side of the call was asking this lady whose face was swollen what happened to her, and she said it was her king (boyfriend) that beat her. The lady was surprised and asked her what she did to deserve such treatment from her boyfriend, and she replied that it was her fault; she was the one that made him angry by going through his phone; that was why he beat her.
I have noticed that some people that go through abuse actually don't see it as abuse, while some make excuses for being abused.
Just like the lady in that video, some people that pass through abuse do not see it as abuse. I had a roommate back in the university who was both physically and verbally abused by her boyfriend but never saw it as abuse; instead, she said it's because he loves her that was why he was behaving that way towards her.
I think for such kinds of people, the best way to help them is to help them love themselves first. They need to know their self-worth. They need to know they are worth more than rubies. With such victims, one needs to be patient because they need all the empathy, encouragement, and understanding they can get. By doing this with time, it will help them break free from the cycles of abuse and reclaim their dignity, respect, and self-worth.
While for people that have been sexually abused, the only way we can make them speak up is to stop the stigmatization and also blame them for what happened to them.
Sexually abused victims are scared of speaking up because of the stigma; people will start looking at them differently, mostly from this part of my world.
I once watched an interview of a lady that said she didn't speak up when she was raped because people were going to blame her for going out with a guy. And that's really sad; I have seen different scary comments on the Internet where people blame a lot of ladies for being raped.
Things like this are still one of the reasons people don't speak up. We need to do well as individuals.
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