Respect isn't how people address you but how they treat you

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Being someone who likes and spends more time with children, people very close to me would say I act like a kid, I guess that is because since 13 years ago, I have had more relationships with younger people than an adult, I spent 8 years teaching pupils and also my street bro and sis were much younger than me and I was closer to them than any adult. Till now I have people much younger than me as friends and I feel so comfortable with them I don't even know my age mate again and when I see my age mate, I feel I am younger than them.


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In the school that I am at the moment, I realized that 95 percent of the students' age bracket is between 18 and 25 and we even have some that are 17 years of age, it does not bother me and I relate with some of them well, I even act like that is my age bracket and I was accepted lol, well some of them kinda know this guy is not their age mate and they try to be respectful which is fine, I have 3 guys am very close to that you would always see me with most times, one of them is 22 and we lived close to each other, so sometimes we even meet up after school to do other stuff, there was a time we register and go to the gym together.

During my Nd 1 program, there was a particular girl with whom we vibed well as friends, but things changed a bit when she asked me to be her mentor on Web3. Before that time, we played in school but had no personal discussions. But since the moment I agreed to be her mentor and we chatted more, personal discussions entered the conversations, and she realized the age gap, and that was how she switched it up from being my friend to me being her older brother...

Most people in my age gap would not want to have anything to do with them, especially the playful part because they realized it could lead to disrespect and name calling but as for me, name calling is the least of my worries, it is just a name! but I also have where I draw the line...


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One thing I do not tolerate is being disrespected or talked to anyhow by them, yea we vibe and play a lot, if people see us together, they think we are age mates, but amidst the teasing and play, I can still sense their respect from the way they talk and that is what makes us cool, I still won't allow most of them to talk to me anyhow apart from those that are really very close to me and that is because I see all they do as play, I like to play a lot as well and the only way we can all enjoy each other company is not to put a line or else things will just get awkward but that is only for like 2 to 3 people, I won't let others relate with me that way cos they might not know when to draw the line.

I also believe respect is reciprocal and we should treat people the same way we want to be treated, some people see adulthood as a right to bully or address the young ones in impolite ways which is totally wrong.... Something happened among the neighbors in the house where I live, we have a group chat for discussions about the services we paid for in the house like electricity and water bills so there was a time we figured out that the man in charge of it was being sneaky and I am someone that hates being fooled, so I called him out in a respectful way, there is this lady in the same house, we greet each other well and I guess she would be older than me, am not sure because looks can be deceiving but I do respect her, on that day I called the man out, she was the one attacking me indirectly which didn't go well with me but I didn't say much because only dogs bark online...

We called an offline meeting and that was when I called her out as well and told her to calm down with the rubbish she was doing in the group, it almost turned physical but the others calmed the situation and I let it go, well she got the message and since then, she stops acting like my elder sister or mum, she learned her lesson that because someone respected you does not mean you should disrespect them.

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That’s the problem. Sometimes when you respect people too much, they feel they are your superior and can treat you anyhow. Not everyone does this but the majority do. They calling out was necessary if not she would have continued being like that.

It was necessary, she wanted to turn herself to what she is not and yea you are right cos I respected her. After she saw the 5minutes madness, she realized no one is her junior in the house and she should treat everyone as tenants and give them the respect deserved too, she is not feeding any of us

It is absolutely true that the world has a role. If we respect people in the world, then people will respect us in return. If we do not respect anyone, then we will never get respect from anyone. But we see that today only money is being respected, that it is very wrong. Humans should be respected, each other should be loved, because one day we all have to leave this world.

People respect money more, I agree with you

Age never restrict us to be friendly with others. So you can be friend of anyone but it should be based on situation also.
I agree with you that how people treat us is the most important and it express that if they respect us or not.

Yea age should not be a barrier but not many people think this way, you need to see how people call out each other because of the age difference

She brother zoned you as fast as the word fast.😂

See someone trying to mommy another person. Some people need canes, seriously. There’s this guy I’m working on something with. We are a group of four and it’s obvious he’s older than us but we all relate well.

Recently, I realized he’s trying to take advantage of the respect we give him. If someone voices out their problems he rather gets annoyed because someone has a different view aside his instead of him reasoning with the person.

He even raises his voice at others sometimes and so I had to call him out cos if it’s me I won’t be calm oo. All my madness will show that day. We are all not kids.

She brother zoned you as fast as the word fast

lol

omo no gree for am, cos the more you guys take it the worse he would become, everyone need to know their position, if he respect you, double respect him, but if he do anyhow, put him in his place

Right!

It’s right
Let me use a relationship as an example
A man cheating on you to your face does not respect you a bit but some people feel the man getting them gifts means respect

oh yea, that is another level of disrespect

Respect is a give and take, you fail to give them you won't receive a thing.

that is a fact!

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